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Toronto Boy
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Date: October 02, 2021 10:28PM
Brad Wilcox spoke tonight. A good part was about a story of a young teenager in the Church who had a porn problem plus I guess other problems that go with it. Wilcox talked of his struggle and then how he with the help of his Church leaders was able to learn to love Jesus and over come the problem.Here are my concerns.
1. Young women listening are going to think that alot of the young men in their ward have this problem. That should give deacons, teachers and priests some guilt feelings.
2. According to Brad, to overcome the problem you have to love Jesus. Not yourself but love Jesus. Loving Jesus is a very adult thing to do. I think a lot of young men do love Jesus in their own private way and are going to bed tonight wondering why they still have a problem. Loving Jesus is a very adult concept if you really step back and look at it.
3. Wilcox made the fix easy. Start with a simple thing you can do and just continue to make simple steps. Example and I am adding to Wilcox's talk. Dont do it for a week. Then at end of week set a goal not to do it for another week.Continue this and continue to love Jesus. Problem solved!!! As a professional counselor I can not imagine how many young in the Church have tried that approach and failed. So some young men are going to bed tonight wondering why its not working.
4. It was a terrible talk by someone working with young men. I am going to rewatch this again when I calm down. I am wondering if:
a) Brad had this problem as a teenager and did not get any resolution
b) Brad has a porn problem as an adult today.There was something about his talk, his delivery that makes me wonder.
Folks I work with young people and I do not think the average young man sees porn as a problem. Nor do they watch much of it. I do not think young people watch porn as much as Church leaders think they do. Its part of growing up. Lastly is porn in the Church only a young man's problem? What about young women? I just feel bad for young men tonight.
I was at the Priesthhood conference when Packer talked to us young men about playing with our little factories. I sat through lots of Priesthood classes as a young man when that topic was talked about. I remember one priesthood meeting we were told to tie our hands to the bed so as not to touch ourselves. Tonight was very similar talk..