Date: October 11, 2021 06:11AM
> The great block to understanding is their
> inability/reluctance to comprehend anything
> outside their experience, compounded by certainty
> there's only one proper way for things to be
> (which is their way, of course).
Reminds me of a conversation I had with a co-worker who was adamant that racism did not exist. He was an upper middle class white guy, from a predominantly white neighborhood, whose parents paid for everything for him, college, first car, etc. He flat out stated "In my experience, racism doesn't exist". So I asked him if his experience encompassed all human experience. He gave me a blank look, so I said "You say you haven't experienced it, but other people say they have. Unless your experience encompasses the entirety of human experience, you have seen and experienced everything every thing there is to possibly see and experience, your stating in your experience there is no such thing as racism is a worthless statement. By your own admission, you haven't seen and experienced everything. Unless you have first hand knowledge of all experiences, your claim to have not seen it is in no way a refutation of people who say they have experienced it". He called me a "fucking libtard" and walked away.
Some people have zero ability to recognize the fact that there is a world, and countless different experiences, that exist outside of their own immediate bubble.
Date: October 11, 2021 08:59AM
is that people were forever telling me God doesn't make mistakes so my "husband" couldn't possibly be gay. In the past few years, I've had 3 women who I know really well in this neighborhood (ward) tell me that it is a choice. I kept a journal of my experiences before I married him and after. Just an old blue notebook. I wrote in it that my logical brain told me that if he is gay, he can't just CHANGE to straight. It didn't make sense to me. If God doesn't make mistakes, then that makes him GAY. It is who he is. My biggest fear for him was society and the church. All I wanted was to know he was okay, that he'd be able to find someone to be with and live out his life happy. That obviously isn't what they told me. I just told my "friend" and I do consider him my friend, confused as hell about gays, what I needed from them all back 38+ years ago and they couldn't/wouldn't do that for me. I had to figure it out MYSELF. So much for their spirituality, discernment, speaking with God, blah blah blah.
IF my husband changed from gay to straight, he would no longer be the person he is. As angry as he has made me sometimes, it is not something I would want to happen.
I do worry about transgenders because I saw a piece by Leslie Stahl on 60 minutes. I worry they start them on drugs too soon or do sex change operations too soon. With gays, they are gay. No chemicals to stop puberty, etc. That scares me. But I accept that if there is a God, and I tend to wonder about that everyday, then he does make mistakes now, doesn't he!
And I'm so sick of seeing anything saying God answers prayers. Well, if there is a God, I guess he did answer my prayers in a roundabout way, but my prayer that he would be straight was never answered. So quit telling me about prayers being answered. I have deaf grandparents. I have a brother who is mentally and physically disabled, had a stroke at birth. The rest were human issues. Another brother had a stroke at age 42. I can't imagine the prayers my mother said in her life (her parents were the deaf ones and she was their voice as she was the oldest--she learned to sign before she learned to speak). Now tell me again, God doesn't make mistakes.