Date: April 06, 2023 12:09AM
A long time ago, my childhood friend got married. She was only 19. I was 18 and had just graduated from high school. I felt free as a bird with so much possibility before me as a young adult. I honestly wasn't very excited for her. She was so young and already being saddled with married life. I was one of her bridesmaids, but of course had to wait outside the temple because I hadn't 'gone through' yet (never did, btw).
Merely a year later they already had a baby and were separating! During the separation I went to visit her and the baby. They were staying with her parents at the time. At this time she told me that she was concerned/found it odd that her husband had been going to gay nightclubs during their separation.
They eventually patched things up, got back together, had more kids, and have now been married over 25 years. Now, even if I didn't know about the gay nightclub 'phase', I would still 100% think my friend's husband was gay. The whole situation makes me sad for all of them. I've never talked to her about it (not my place), but she HAS to know. I cannot imagine going through life pretending like that. They are both pretending (or she pretends not to know). Who knows, maybe they have some kind of understanding. They are both still very TBM, so there's probably too much at stake to turn back now. Besides, her husband is an RM, BYU grad, the whole 9. A 'Mormon catch'. Their youngest is still a kid, so I'm wondering if they'll stop pretending when all the kids finally move out?
It's like I sensed something was off way back in the beginning...