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Posted by: cuzx ( )
Date: April 09, 2023 03:27AM

When our daughter remarried in 2010, she and her husband-to-be were both 100% non believers. As she worked for an airline, my wife and I flew non rev (standby) with them to HI, where they contracted a minister and got married on the beach. What a wonderful way to be wedded vs. their first marriages in TSSC. That evening, we all went to a luau together and enjoyed adult beverages (except for DW, who still believes to an extent). Fast forward to 2023; they've raised a family, both finished college, began a shared career, and long since moved out of the Morridor. I couldn't be happier for their union thirteen years ago.

Cuz X

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Posted by: summer ( )
Date: April 09, 2023 08:03AM

That wedding sounds lovely! Most weddings that I've been to over the years have been nonreligious. Those marriages are just as valid as those that take place in churches.

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Posted by: cl2 ( )
Date: April 09, 2023 12:37PM

4-1/2 years ago my boyfriend's son got married at the to of a mountain in Keystone, Colorado. It was gorgeous. They had 3 days of partying.

My daughter got married 6 months later in the temple. I made sure I got there late so I didn't have to stand outside. I timed it well. I handled it pretty good. If they had offered me the opportunity to go in without paying tithing, etc., I would have said no. I got married in the same temple.

Their little luncheon after the wedding was nice and it was simple, not extravagant, and I really enjoyed the day and I'm so thrilled about who she married. Then my aunt wrote the e-mail I shared some years ago and I just found the printed copy of the answers you guys gave. She gave me a play by play of sitting in the chapel waiting to be taken to the sealing room and it was 51 stairs up to the room. I do have PTSD and this set it off. I told my aunt what she had done. I told her I GOT MARRIED THERE. I didn't need you to explain every detail.

Oh, to have a do over, but I don't want to get married again. I'm not up to ever emotionally being ready for that.

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Posted by: bluebutterfly ( )
Date: April 12, 2023 08:03PM

And that's exactly what a wedding should be like. A celebration where everyone is happy and excited to be a part of it. Not separating the worthy/unworthy. Not doing rituals in costumes. I've had to suffer through being the 'unworthy' waiting outside for 2 of my TBM siblings' temple 'weddings', as well as for a few friends. Ick

Interestingly enough, one of my TBM sisters loves attending non-Mo weddings because she says 'they're actually fun'. LOL

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Posted by: GNPE ( )
Date: April 13, 2023 01:40AM

If I get married or hitched or Domestically partnered, odds on we’ll both be nude

Just Sayin’

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