Date: September 24, 2010 02:18PM
... that the "shower" will be percieved by Cindy's niece as a reward for her behavior. Undoubtedly, the girl's family will lavish their attention on her until the baby is born. They'll then shower that attention on the baby until it becomes a nuisance. In the meantime, all Cindy's niece will have learned is that little baby equals no pressure for a while. When the pressure is back on, she'll likely repeat the cycle.
I agree with Skunk Puppet. However, The level of "support" is what I question. I wouldn't attend the shower or offer any presents. In addition, I would not make myself available to baby-sit or help out in any way that has anything to do with money. Trust me, Cindy, they will ask!
Can't tell you folks how many times I've had to deal with this bulls**t. Eldest sister, for example, would come in to town (she lives in Utah) and call to ask if I'd baby sit her eight f**king rug rats along with my other TBM sibs combined fourteen so they could go out. When I refused, which was every time, she'd get real mad and say, "That's not Fair! You don't have any kids!" as if that somehow made it my duty. Like it or not, dogzilla, I told sis every time that she should have thought about such things before she went about birthin' eight kids. I know I did!
This one's a particular favorite. Eldest TBM brother, who was already indebted to me for quite a handsome sum, came by one day, unnanounced, to borrow an additional $7,500. When I refused, he got mad and said "You don't know what its like to feed eight mouths (6 kids, he and his wife) as if, again, that somehow made it my duty. After informing him that, having grown-up under such circumstances, I did, in fact, know what its like, I then reminded him that my council was never requested nor I did get any pu**y out of the deal, so I bear no responsibility in the matter. All I got was this nonsense about making heavenly father mad because I had dishonored and mocked the family. Whatever.
The kicker, however, came when eldest brother died in 1992. I kid you not, my TBM siblings told me "the spirit" had told them it was god's plan that I ditch my Beloved nevermo spouse and take my brother's place so that I might know the joys and blessings of raising kids. His griefing wife agreed. Does it bother you, dogzilla, that I told them that was just about the stupidest f**king thing I ever heard in my life?
The question is whether or not its "mormony" of Cindy to boycott her sixteen-year-old niece's baby shower. The bulls**t I just cited is mormony. Encouraging a repeat performance with attention, parties and presents is quite "mormony" as well as typical of the irresponsible parent. Suggesting alternatives and expressing concern is anything but mormony.
They don't want your advice, Cindy, but they do want your support. Guidance would be the only type of support I'd be willing to offer. That will be rejected as well. The "support" they want is either monetary or of a baby sitting nature.
Its not mormony at all to refuse to be used.
Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 09/24/2010 02:49PM by Timothy.