Posted by:
forestpal
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Date: July 14, 2012 04:47AM
Finally, I have reached the point of not giving a darn! I get the "no response" a lot from my Utah Mormon neighbors. At first, it really hurt my feelings, but now I think they are just not trained in the social graces. Where I'm from, we always say, "Hello."
When I left the cult, It actually felt good to just stare right through them, or look at the air, or go in the other direction when I saw one of them. But--they were still dictating my behavior. They were forcing me to be rude, and I'm not a rude person.
Now, I just say "Hello" or "Hi" (whatever I feel like) to everyone I used to know. I look them in the eye, but I keep the same expression I had before, which is usually smiling, because I'm a happy person. I don't say, "How are you?" because, honestly, I don't want to start a phony conversation with former fake friends. If they ask how I am, I answer, "Fine, thank you." The key is the body language: keep moving, don't stop, don't make hand gestures, and immediately focus on the task at hand. (What's next on my shopping list? That's a cute dog over there).
If I want to say something nice to the store clerks and workers, I do. Yesterday, I complemented the gas station guy on their new landscaping, and he had a very interesting story to tell about it. So many times, someone will say something hilarious, or profound, and I think, "I would have missed that, if I hadn't made a comment." In the real world outside of Mormonism, I like people, and I enjoy living my life this way.
When someone is rude to me, I put it right back onto them. That person got up on the wrong side of the bed--that's all. Truly, it is always more about them than it is about you. Don't take it personally. A lot of Mormons are narcissistic, and they see only themselves and care only about their own little existence. They don't even care enough about you to be rude to you. At the same time, they are missing out on a lot of good people around them.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 07/14/2012 04:48AM by forestpal.