Posted by:
Flat Lander
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Date: April 13, 2012 09:51AM
There are many, many inactive Mormons who will never resign. There are a good number of folks here on this site who consider themselves Ex-Mormons, but who have not resigned and might never resign. So, some people can do just as you suggest.
If you don't actually resign, however, even if you move away, you are likely to have Mormons "coming round, bashing on your door" for the rest of your life. When a new bishop gets called or a new ward clerk, or whatever, someone will see your name on a roster and come find you and encourage you to come back to church, they will want to talk to your children, get them blessed and baptized. If you live somewhere they have early morning seminary, they will invite your high school-age children to come to seminary at 5:30 or 6 a.m. to study Mormonism.
They will follow you around the rest of your life, no matter how many times you move. Of course, they lose track of some people when they move, and can't continue to harass them, but if you have relatives in the church who are still active, or even who are inactive, but still know where you live, the church will send folks to their house to ask them about you, get your new address, and make sure someone comes to visit you.
You can ask to be put on a "DO NOT CONTACT" list, but often times who is on the DO NOT CONTACT list gets lost or when a new bishop or ward clerk or relief society president or elders quorum president gets called, there is a desire to contact everyone and invite them back, so it begins all over again. I have even been in wards where the new folks ask "Is there a DO NOT CONTACT list?" and sometimes we could find one, and sometimes not, but EVERY time we did any significant effort at reactivation, we came back with a list of people who wanted to be DO NOT CONTACT. A couple of years later, new folks in place, "Do we have a list?" "No?" or "Can't find it?" so they go bother the same people again.
So, resigning is necessary for some people to keep COJCOLDS from bothering you.
Others choose to resign because they no longer want their name in any way associated with COJCOLDS. There are a variety of reasons for this, almost all of which start with disagreeing with doctrine, but can also include the church's history of lying, its misogyny, homophobia, racism, etc.