Posted by:
forestpal
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Date: July 01, 2012 01:16PM
Since a huge part of recovery is self acceptance, I think it is to a poster's benefit to keep the same name.
An authentic poster offers us a view of his/her growth. This has been as inspirational to me as their actual words. For example, I can see new posters, who have resigned, but have retained their Mormon black-and-white, all-or-nothing way of thinking. It is wonderful to see minds open up, and for lightbulbs to go on! It is gratifying to see people solving their problems, and evolving into great advisors!
RFM helps us accept others--individuality--and love each other for our unique life experiences, our unique perspectives. We don't have to agree. This helps us to grow. I have a better understanding of gays, atheists, missionaries, people with various disabilities, various life struggles. I love and appreciate everyone on this board, including the posters I disagree with. We are here to grow in understanding.
We need to experience the non-judgmental, unconditional love we never found in the Mormon cult.
It would be interesting to start a thread about "What is unique about you?" or "What was it that marginalized you?."
After years of being ASHAMED of being divorced, and not having a man in my life, I am now proud of it. I loved, raised, protected and supported my children all alone, and they turned out great! My own Mormon temple GA family parents did not love or protect me. Actually, they abused me, and I BROKE THE CYCLE OF ABUSE. So, maybe I am proud of my life as a survivor.
Do not judge people. Just because we post anonymously, doesn't mean we might be circus freaks. In my case, I have a dangerous ex-husband, who has been released from prison on several counts of assault and battery. He and his Mormon family think he owns me, along with his subsequent temple wives. TSCC would never grant me a temple divorce from this monster. They also think my children, fathered by my second husband, years later, are temple-sealed to the wife-beater for eternity. (No wonder I hate the cult, right?) I purposely don't give out specific details. You can keep vital information to yourself, yet be honest about who you really are. It isn't all or nothing. Several posters could potentially lose their Mormon families if they are discovered.