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forestpal
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Date: November 02, 2012 12:32AM
If you are suffering from anxiety, there are things you can do to break yourself out of your circular, no-way-out, negative thinking, and these techniques work pretty quickly (15 to 20 minutes) to take the edge off.
The breathing is excellent.
Exercising is, too. Walking my dog every day in the forest saved my sanity and my health.
Pet your pet--lowers blood pressure and raises endorphins.
A change of scenery, move from indoors to outdoors, into another room, into a shower or bath, into the kitchen to cook, into the garage to build something, etc.
My grandmother's cure for depression: wash your hair.
If you feel your are truly depressed, see a doctor!!!!
After that, you need to know that you can rely on yourself. I have PTSD, and for many years, I could not trust myself to keep out of harm's way--but I finally got over that.
Whatever problem you have, has a solution. YOU have the capacity to find that solution and act accordingly. That's what being an adult is all about.
"To follow your heart is the truest wisdom." --Leo Tolstoy Others might tell you that running away is bad--but it can save your life, if someone is physically harming you. Mormons will tell you that being disobedient is bad, but sometimes you need to rebel to save your sanity. There are many other pieces of BAD advice that Mormons have given you over the years, and you need to let go. The Truth is, that your present safety and happiness is something YOU earned--directly through your actions--and not indirectly by being a "good Mormon girl" and earning blessings from God.. YOU did this for yourself. You need time and silence to think about this. Perhaps it would help for you to write down your triumphs. Certainly, if you got through a difficult illness with your child--that is a triumph! We survive the death of our parents. We have survived the collapse of our belief system. That's a lot of stuff!
An example of changing your perspective, and gaining self-confidence, is when my husband completely abandoned me and my children in Utah. He told me he was getting a divorce, and he did not want a family anymore. He disappeared, we had no address, we had no money. In a state of panic, I prayed and fasted for weeks. Of course, God did not speak to me. God did not comfort me; instead I read "The Miracle of Forgiveness" and felt God was punishing me. (Never read that book) I was almost suicidal, but had to concentrate on feeding my children, day to day, and figuring out what to do to survive. I opened my eyes to the love of my children, and the love of my parents (though far away) and of good people, everywhere. I looked back on my married life, giving birth, raising my children, enjoying a life of love and happiness--and--bam! It hit me! I was the one who had done everything! My husband had abandoned us in his heart, long before he physically abandoned us. He was never there for us. I had done well alone so far, and I was confident that I could carry on into the future--and I did. I still had a lot of bouts of fear, but never again was afraid we would not survive.
When you look at your triumphs, you will see that you are stronger than you think you are. If you need comfort, take out your favorite old stuffed animal or "woobie", and hug it. It is just a piece of cloth, right, but it was more than that--it was YOU. It had your personality, your feelings of comfort and love, your security that you were giving to yourself.
"Things usually look better in the morning." --my grandpa (a doctor)
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 11/02/2012 12:37AM by forestpal.