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piper
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Date: January 10, 2011 12:47PM
I started this thread about a week ago...
http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,71611,71611#msg-71I heard from my brother who is in college via texts last night and this morning. He told me he has not been to church in a year and has been hiding depression his whole life, but is feeling better since quitting church. Also that he is bisexual or gay, I guess he is figuring it out, he said it's complicated. I have been trying to support him the best I can and I referred him here in the hopes that he can read stories of people who have gone through similar struggle. I got his permission to post this in the hopes that he can receive some support from you kind people. :)
Apparently my mom confronted him last night about not going to church, he told her, just that he isn't happy and doesn't want to go to church. She suggested he get on depression medication. lol
He has always been the good, obedient son, and I think he is scared that she will not accept him. I made it clear to him how much I love him and that I want him to be happy, Mormon or not, gay, straight, or bi, whatever makes him happy. We have an uncle and a couple cousins who are gay, so I think there is a decent chance that our parents will be accepting of him, of course there is no way to know for sure. So far, I told him to get her used to the idea of him not going to church. I don't know if that was the right thing to say, but that is why I am here. :) I have no idea how to tell him how to break the news of his sexuality, and if it is better to wait or better just to rip the metaphorical band-aid off all at once and tell her everything. He is working and going to college on a scholarship, so he is supporting himself and doesn't have to worry about losing monetary support.
So is it better for him to just drop a few hints first, like getting the facial piercing he wants, or is it better to lay it all out in detail? I think he is still figuring things out, and I told him that I still don't have it all figured out, so I think it would be difficult to really give too much detail right now anyway.
I am so proud of my brother for not continuing the Mormon charade and going on a mission. I just want to help him in any way I can. I don't want to see my little brother suffer. Any advice for him or me would be appreciated. Thank you. :)
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 01/10/2011 02:55PM by piper.