Posted by:
foggy
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Date: March 30, 2013 01:07AM
I came to the realization tonight that I am basically constantly working on ruining my marriage with my inability to express my needs and wants. I am afraid that one of these days something seemingly dumb is going to happen and it will be just enough to break my little secret resentment shelf and I will jump up, yell "I can't take it anymore!" and storm out, leaving him genuinely confused.
There are definitely some reception issues on his side that could be worked on, but for the most part it comes down to me being afraid of any kind of conflict and either not even bringing something up that bothers me, or just shutting down if he responds harshly and not actually working anything out.
I came to realize that he really thinks everything is great when he commented to his brother and SIL that their parents would be so much better off if they could communicate like we do...
So because I'm on my phone and don't want to be much more ranty, I'll just ask, is this where I try to get us to marriage counseling, or do I need to just work on myself first?