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They don't want me back
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Date: January 19, 2011 06:56AM
Mine isn't with Mormons at the moment either, but the lying to themselves the ability to see themselves and the hero/victim in any situation and spin all the information till it suits them is down right amazing.
OMG! you just can’t make this stuff up.
My stepson John Michael, I’ll just refer to him as JM from here on out, asked to move in before Thanksgiving, he’s 30, he just found his girlfriend Abby in bed with another man, who happens to be his sisters drug addict bf the notorious IV. (That’s right folks; his name is IV, not Ivy or Iverson!)
(I’ve vented about my dysfunction step-daughter here also, she has 4 children, 3 of them to this drug addict who steals his mothers jewelry and money from their purses to support his habit and cheats on her, and she is on welfare, they live with his mother and she seems to think of herself as a stay at home mom, sent us this e-mail a few months ago.)
[Hey dad, just wanted to say HI, I know we don’t speak that much we both have our own reasons, but I wanted to tell you that I love you and miss you and I wish things could be different between us, but I know you are not happy with choices I have made. Just know that those choices I have made have given me a wonderful family and a fulfilling life, my only wish is that you would just accept me for me even with my flaws, for I have accepted you and yours. I love you unconditionally you are my one and only father. I know you don’t approve of the decisions I have made, but those decisions have made me truly happy and truly blessed. I only wish that my kid would be able to know you and love you the way I do. I don’t expect a response, but these feeling can no longer remain held in. I love you know matter what choices you have made I only wish you would love me the same.]
Her dad responded: Seriously xxxxx, fishing again, find some new bait.
Her reply: Oh, that’s right I’m not one of your precious little step kids! I am fine without you, and I guess that’s just how it will stay. I know those grandkids will be much more important to you anyway.
She lies to us and really doesn’t have time for us unless we’re giving her money or buying the children gifts. There is no real relationship here unless it’s to believe her bullshit and allow her to exploit our resources.
So John Michael, he gets a rental truck and moves all his stuff out (he’s been trying to fix Abby her of her addiction to heroin and or oxy-codeine or whatever drug she can get her hands on? he seems to think she can just stop), puts household stuff in storage and sleeps on Moms sofa. He leaves his step-son and bio child with Abby, but he’s got all his stuff.
Two weeks later he asks to move in with us, we have spare bedrooms because we are almost empty nesters, I guess the accommodations are better at Dads house. [My three children two oldest girls graduated from college and have moved out, my son is in 3rd year of college in CO. and only home about twice a year.]
So anyway they lose the house they are renting and Abby moves in with some guy and takes the children up to her mothers and leaves them there so she can devote more time to drugs and now Abby’s mom has the children.
John Michael is still married to Tressa; they have been separated for 5 years and still haven’t managed to file divorce papers. He has two children to Tressa and he has another bio child as he had Tressa and gf Joy knocked up at the same time, (Joy wouldn’t marry him so he married Tressa. JM was in the army and these women live in an another state) At any rate, Joy and Tressa have teamed up and sued for child support now all this child support is catching up with him. (He didn’t pay for years and I guess just though these women would just let him off the hook).
So he has a list of things he needs to do,
Like get a lawyer for custody of his son if he doesn’t want Abby’s mom raising them,
File for bankruptcy as his finances are a disaster, he has no car it got repoed,
Fie for divorce from Tressa,
Catch up on back child support,
He needs 750.00 dollars or tools for the courses he wants to take at trade school and
He needs a car.
And he got laid off work two weeks after he moved in with us.
He’s saying now he wants to go back to school because of GI education benefits he can get, he wants to get better paying jobs so he can pay all this child support and still have enough money to live.
So this morning he says to me, I just got my last check from xxxxx (the place he got laid off from), it’s nice he says to have 800.00 dollars and not have anything to do with it. WTF, wow he has money to spend????? So I say, well you could go get a lawyer and file for custody of xxxxxx, and he says, “I haven’t decided about that yet!”
So What, I’m speculating here but because we’re supposed to be helping him out he assumes that we will get going on that to-do list of his neglected responsibility’s so he can free himself up to get on with his life.
I guess we’re supposed to come up with the money to hire a lawyer for him to get custody of his child, finalize the divorce and get that bankruptcy taken care of and if you wouldn’t mind I need you to buy those tools I need for school and I’ll just ‘borrowing’ your car for the next two to three years until I get on my feet again.
Just like his sister, they’re both so busy figuring things out, like who’s job is to take care of these responsibilities because they’re very busy with their lives and because you’re the responsible adults I’ll just come to you, leave in itemized list of things I don’t have the time and money for and wait for you to get this mess taken care of.
All I can think of is that I want all this bullshit and insanity out of my house. I can’t help you out because you won’t accept responsibility for the consequences of your actions, grow the **** up and make the changes in yourself and you way of thinking that so desperately need made and get to work on this stuff, you’re just sitting on your hands waiting for someone to take care of it, and wondering why it’s taking so long because you want to get back on the road and race to the scene of your next life crisis.