Posted by:
SusieQ#1
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Date: April 27, 2013 05:16PM
First off, I was a young adult convert.
I grew up with the adage: you can do anything you set your mind to. "Where there is a will there is a way."
I also was given the Optimist Creed on a plague as a gift when I was a young girl by my grandmother.
I grew up with the attitude of: Equal Rights!
When I joined the LDS Church and a year later married in the temple, I was willing and able to adapt as much as I could, to the culture and the requirements as I married an RM true believer.
Some of it was weird and strange at first, but for some reason, (probably many) I was willing to keep at it. Probably the main reason was because I was smack dab in the middle of Utah Mormon Culture and what other choice did I really have that was viable!
Plus I had a huge support system.
I have often said that I could never learn to "think like a born in the bed Mormon". I was always coming from a different view point, attitude, and experience. It's natural. I grew up differently.
I have found, especially looking back, that the positive, experiences, and constructive qualities I developed, and abilities and talents I was able to use, and long time friends I have made, as a Mormon out weight the ugly negative ones.
What I took with me is my family - with all of our quirks, and different belief systems.
Also, I left the religion when I was in my late 50's, all the children were out of the home. Some left before I did. That is a whole different set of dynamics than some.
I think my experience might be unique in some ways because of
my background, upbringing, my natural personality, and when I lived in UT (early 60's) and where (BYU Married Student Housing.)
My early years, especially, was a time and place that was conducive to acceptance of all peoples, cultures, races, religions.
Our children got a rather liberal (as opposed to orthodox) upbringing in the LDS Church. All have left it except one. We were strict about some things, and very liberal about others. We were not a fanatical religious family.
Because of the factors I listed, I have never had to deal with such things as: anxiety, depression, flash backs, etc, regarding my involvement in any religion throughout my life.
And, I am therefore, grateful, (partly because of my natural personality) for all of my experiences, "The Good, The Bad, The Ugly" as I have learned things that I would most likely have not learned otherwise.
And so, I keep on keeping on, especially now that it's just me in this little house! (Good thing I like my own company!) :-)
It's obvious that other people have completely different experiences, internalized the religion much differently than I did. Yes. We are different. One is not right and another wrong.
So to answer the question simply: no. I've gained more than I lost.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 04/27/2013 05:17PM by SusieQ#1.