Posted by:
SLDrone
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Date: July 15, 2013 10:26AM
I have a friend who is gay. He's not just gay, he lives to be gay. Everything he does is gay, he goes to gay parades, he goes to gay bars he goes on gay cruises, the only thing he knows about the Supreme Court is their rulings on DOMA and Prop 8, but he couldn't name a single justice. He runs a gay support group, he goes to movies with a group of gay friends. He's a one note song, the gay note. I tell him sometimes that I know it's important for him to focus on himself and fight for his civil rights, but that there is a balance.
I'm the first to admit that I too went through a period of aggressive exmoism, every single step of recovery, including a fair amount of depression, bitterness and then passionate sharing of information. IT TOOK ME ABOUT 10 years, but eventually I realized being a victim didn't suit me and I tried to find a balance. Only then could I move on. Mormonism doesn't matter very much to me anymore. The day to day riffraff is just that to me, a pile of garbage.
Everyone has their own path. I have often called "recovery from Mormonism" a solitary journey. We all have to find our own time frames and our own idea of what it means to be recovered. Some may always need to be recovering, but I hope all of us hope to be healed. It's a personal thing to give yourself permission to be recovered. A powerful ward to remember is this, the only power they and it have over me, or you, is the power we give them.
Don't abandon your exmormonism, but don't let it consume you. Exmormonism is not who you are, it's just a remnant of who you used to be. I don't think we can ever just "be over it" and it will in the course of life events boil, maybe even violently to the surface. Bring it out on occasion, let it remind you and draw power from the passion. I wish you all a happy recovery.
Edited 4 time(s). Last edit at 07/15/2013 11:37AM by SLDrone.