Posted by:
omreven
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Date: July 17, 2013 12:41AM
I'm a nevermo who married a Jack. Mine was abusive too, so this may not be the best comparison but be wary...you're stepping into dangerous territory. Jacks can be the most rabid even though they never go to church and break all the rules. They revert...they go back. Have kids? They want to go back to their own roots. There will be resentment towards you (and you him) and many fights when you refuse to raise your children Mormon. You'd better cover this one before you go further.
Oh, and when things go wrong in the marriage, there will always be bumps, guess who's fault it is? YOURS, of course, because you're not Mormon and because of the fucking gospel. You have to have the gospel and the priesthood and of course things are bad because you aren't temple sealed and you don't pay tithing and you don't have the gospel and IT'S ALL YOUR FAULT. Life and marriage would be happy and rainbows all the time if you were temple sealed, dontcha know, and had the priesthood in the home and the gospel, the gooospeeellll...and tithing. Don't forget the tithing.
Just wait until the in-laws kick it into full gear and harp all over your husband about returning to the fold. Maybe you'll get lucky and they'll just be silent and passive-aggressive on you, then hubs comes home from work and unloads Mormon bullshit all over you and your response is, "Talk to the family today??" Another fight over Mormonism ensues and how you will not let your daughters anywhere near that tripe.
They get uptight with strong women. Sure it seems fine now and I hope it stays that way, but if you're strong and not a meek little baby-voiced molly, ever so obedient and cow eyed of the wonders of the priesthood male, this could spell trouble down the road.
Lot's of criticism and judgment to be had. You've noticed this by now, haven't you?
This is a dangerous road to go. They revert. They go back. And they have the hangups that Mormons have, the passive-aggressive, the inability to deal with negative emotions. You really don't need your in-laws harping on you too. Mine didn't get too overy Mormony with me, but you can bet my husband's shitty behavior was MY FAULT, and they let it be known. Yeah, it all comes down to pay, pray, obey, and pay and the gospel. Since you don't believe it, it's your fault. It's also your fault for keeping Mr. Priesthood away from his full gospel-loving potential...all you, all you, and they have NO qualms at all pitting your own kids away from you either. They have no shame. Watch for those red flags.