I'm corresponding with my nephew who is on a LDS mission and I'm wondering how private our conversation really is.
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I don't remember when it started exactly. Maybe when I was 13 or so. I always lied to him about it and hated myself for that. I experienced so much unnecessary guilt, anxiety, and shame. Our bishop was vice president of a small town bank and he really had no qualifications or training to be talking to me about sex. In a lot of ways he robbed me of my innocence. It makes me so angry that he'
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I'd love to see some hard data on this subject. Until we're able to look at reliable statistical evidence, all we can do is engage in baseless speculation.
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Did anybody out there get involved in conversations with ex-mormons online while you were still TBM? I had my moment of awakening before the internet was such a huge part of everyone's lives. I'm just curious if anybody had their mind opened by things people said to them online. I do remember once when I was still TBM and I visited a gay chat room. I said a bunch of ignorant, homophobic thi
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I know this has been posted about in the past, but it drives me nuts to hear Mormons and ex-Mormons refer to the LDS church as "the" church. There are many, many churches. Language is important and I think we wind up playing along with the Mormon delusion when we call that church "the" church. It's not the only one!
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Exactly. Sadly I don't think a day will ever come when it's leadership takes a long look in the mirror and faces that church's history of abuse for what it is. I'm definitely not holding my breath for an apology.
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I'm with Carol. I don't know what to make of the fact that I've become a person who says "think of the children," but think of the children! Don't help them brainwash the next generation.
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I'm so sorry that you're in such a state. Like Ex-Sister said, alcohol is a depressant. I really recommend not abusing chemicals. I did that for years after I left the church because it wasn't "wrong" anymore. It may not have been wrong but it was self-destructive and kept me from growing. You sound like you're a good person who has been through a lot of difficult things. Give y
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Sounds like you're an adult making the decision which seems best to you. If you have kids, though, please don't indoctrinate them and manipulate them into participating in rituals which they don't understand.
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I think for now I'll have to leave this idea in the realm of fantasy. I have a job where I travel a lot, so I could feasibly visit many meetinghouses where I wouldn't risk alienating my family by speaking my mind, but I wouldn't want to do a bad job of exemplifying what an ex-Mormon is. To those of you who think it's a bad idea on the grounds that it's disrespectful, I can see your point. I
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Summer is right. Ben's behavior is totally inappropriate and you are well within your rights to loudly speak up for yourself. Other people need to know what a creep he's being. He sounds like he's preying upon you.
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Pista Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > In my experience, the true believers will do more > damage than you ever could. The wackiest stuff I > ever heard, the stuff that made me question the > whole thing the most, was inevitably in a > testimony meeting. > > > I seem to recall ward missionaries making special > efforts to kee
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rhgc Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I got to speak before the council for an hour by > starting off on a direction of beliefs rather than > unbelief and them hit home. One can also testify > about a "doubt" and leave the conclusion to the > listener to decipher. You also use the key words > like testimony of... and add a few tea
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Shummy Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > brettm Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > Shummy, were you replying to my post? > > > > I posted that link to show the courage some > people > > have. I have no idea who that guy in the video > is > > but I have a tremendous amount o
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al-iced Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I've seen it happen. The person was promptly > silenced and escorted out by the bishop's > counselors. The bishop then gave a damage control > speech. Wow, that must have been amazing. Yeah, I think that a person would have to choose their words carefully so as not to initially make clear that the test
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RPackham Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Don't try it. > > You will just give the bishop and others, after > you have been silenced about one minute into your > speech, the opportunity to comment on how this is > a demonstration of what happens to you when you > "kick against the pricks" because of your "pride" &g
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brettm Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > This is what could happen. > > https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sIPc1f1GtS8 Wow. That's inspiring. It takes a lot of guts to speak up like that.
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For a long time I've been pondering whether or not it would be advisable to start attending testimony meetings at LDS churches. I'd get up and speak ideas which aren't ever voiced within LDS churches. I think about how I'd maybe share some of my back story, that I was raised Mormon, then talk about how I left the church some 15 years ago and the things I found out after leaving, then address my
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It's been ten years since the morning I realized that I could also NOT believe in the LDS church. I was 19 and finishing up my freshman year of college when that happened. At the time I was preparing to serve my mission and was a full on "drink the kool-aid" type Mormon. After that I slowly slid into a deep depression marked by a lot of anger and anxiety. My whole life had been
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