It's odd, in retrospect, that it took so long for me to discard the garmies and opt for regular underwear. You'd think that would be one of first things to go after one's shelf breaks.
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We were on our first vacation after I was mentally out but two months before I had resigned. I needed some new undies (hadn't packed enough) and they don't sell them at the ABC tourist stores in Waikiki. I finally broke down and asked a passerby about nearby clothing stores. It sounded like she said "Meshies." She was telling me Macy's. LOL!
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One thing that strikes me in Steve's personal history is how quickly RM's get married and start a family, which parallels my own life experience. In hindsight, I wish our courtship and engagement phases were longer and that she had finished her senior year at BYU without the trauma of morning sickness in her final semester.
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Reddit r/ExMormon My reply to "Tell me you grew up in a cult without telling me you grew up in a cult" on 4/29/2023: Just remember to give equal time to the scriptures. – My former bishop at tithing settlement about four months into my deconstruction of church doctrine and history and 10 months before I resigned It's OK to have doubts but if you ever teach anyone about them
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I actually met with our local PostMo group this morning. They were so supportive. I was honored to share my story with them. The feelings are all so fresh. They offered an attentive ear, hugs, and condolences. We shared some healing laughter about PostMo topics too. It did my heart good. RfM friends, thank you for your kind comments and advice. I take it very much to heart. I am absolutely commit
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The love of my life passed away at 12:57 AM on Tuesday, April 18th, with a gathering of our children and grandchildren around her in the ICU. It's been one of the most painful, stressful, difficult weeks of our lives. Thankfully, she was able to share some goodbyes with everyone after they took her off the ventilator and before they stopped her levophed (norepinephrine). My heart is broke
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Lot's Wife Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > "Por cada hombre feo nacen varias mujeres sin > gusto." We used to joke as misioneros and, instead of saying "mucho gusto" (pleased to meet you), or "el gusto es mío" (the pleasure is mine), we would rejoinder "mucho susto" (much fright).
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This is so hard to write without the emotions of the last 23 hours welling up into another bout of uncontrolled tears. I was out of town when my daughter called to say she had to call 911 for my wife, the love of my life. She's been struggling with myelodysplastic syndrome (bone marrow not producing enough healthy red blood cells) and three months of oral chemo. So she's been extremely fatigue
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You're good people. I'll try to be better (seven years into early retirement from public school teaching). Thank you for the anecdotes: el edificio P-2 (EOD) and la voiture MR2 (wowbagger). CuzX
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It's all about the greed and their love of adulation; they live a hollow life, in reality. How do they convince themselves to embrace their power and privilege at the expense of everyone below them? They must hold fast to their delusions or their house of cards would literally come crashing down. Cuz X Do they ever lose sleep as Generation Alpha quietly slips through their money-grubbing fi
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When our daughter remarried in 2010, she and her husband-to-be were both 100% non believers. As she worked for an airline, my wife and I flew non rev (standby) with them to HI, where they contracted a minister and got married on the beach. What a wonderful way to be wedded vs. their first marriages in TSSC. That evening, we all went to a luau together and enjoyed adult beverages (except for DW, w
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My mission experience (Argentina Buenos Aires South, 1975-1977) helped me immensely in studying three additional languages: Italian and Portuguese at BYU and Korean at DLI (the Defense Language Institute). At the end of my mission in Mar Del Plata, Argentina, we lived for a few months with an Italian immigrant family. As one of my grandparents was Italian, it really piqued my interest to learn
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Three turn-offs to the public in general are (1) annoying Mormon proselytizing; (2) avoiding friendships or community associations outside of their church circle; and 3) self-righteous judgment of societal mores (medical cannabis, gay marriage, women's right to choice, and so on). Add to the above, all of the unfavorable press TSSC has gotten for so many reasons, from homophobia, misogyny, and
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To continue supporting my wife through her chemo for MDS (myelodysplastic syndrome).
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On NPR, they were doing a review of Sally Denton's "American Massacre" and caller commented about blood atonement. On the same program or soon after, I first heard the truth about Joseph Smith's polygamy and read portions of Compton's "In Sacred Loneliness." My shelf broke straight away and, within two months, my former beliefs had completely disintegrated.
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(1) The church is so #$@!%. God bless this rising generation. (2) Yes! My teenage daughter goes, “yea I’ll pass on the two hours of shame!” (3) These questions never would have seen daylight two generations ago. Not even one gen ago
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I'm officially out since 2003 and I wonder how church youth today are dealing that pressure, if they don't want to go on a mission. Cuz X https://www.reddit.com/r/exmormon/comments/11o93vq/questions_youth_were_asking_our_visiting_authority/
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Lot's Wife Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > And the combination of French, > African, and Southeast Asian cultures and cuisines > is wonderful. You’ve really piqued my interest here! > I learned more about the world and how it > functions in those years than anytime before or > after. Wouldn't trade those experiences for > anythi
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Lot's Wife Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > And what's better on > a long weekend than a trip to Toronto? That sounds lovely. Did you ever partake of a weekend in Montreal or Quebec, due their proximity? I would have been tempted. At DLI, there was so much beauty around Monterey itself, in nearby Carmel-By-The-Sea, and northward to Santa Cruz and San
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Lot's Wife Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > DLI: is that the Monterey Institute? Yes, DLIPOM (Defense Language Institute, Presidio of Monterey) is a great school. My SIL also attended there for Arabic. > Great place. Middlebury too. My favorite Italian professor at BYU had attended Middlebury. He was one of the best foreign language instructors I
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tensolator Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I told my friend he was always, as > always, invited. I told him the EP was chicken > sh!t and he (the EP) could never come over. Right on, tensolator. Yep, that EP was the worst, so judgmental, and not respecting your boundaries. I would have lost it for sure and I’m generally a mellow fellow. Cuz X
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tensolator Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Just a few years > later. We were just kids when we married. Me too. Six months after my mission was just too soon!! > I would have looked into other colleges. I > received a good education at BYU. > > No big changes. Most of my Spanish and all of my Italian classes, especially the la
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I Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Rewrite? > > I'm still righting it? > > But, to answer your question... > > From back to front! Nice!! I would definitely like to “right” my biography from back to front as well. Cuz X
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jumping javelina Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Update: I had a dream set in the distant future. > Two people were looking out over a dry lake bed > surrounded by ruins. One asked the other, "Is this > where all the people died from toxic dust storms?" > The other answered, "Yup. This is the place." Wow!! What a dream,
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I’ve spent literally hundreds of hours visiting the GSL since 2003; photography and hiking were a great pastime, especially after my shelf broke in the summer of 2003. TBH, I’ve done a LOT LESS in this regard since relocating a few more miles to the north and with my wife getting so sick.
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On deployments, I discovered the joys of a cup of joe from our C-rations, and later MREs (meals ready to eat) via the instant coffee packets contained within (I was fairly inactive for about 2/3 of my active duty). Since leaving TSSC, I became reacquainted with joys of caffeinated drinks, more especially green tea lattes these days. ;)
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It’s pretty impressive to watch a dust storm blow across the dry lakebed of Farmington Bay, a small segment of GSL, from the causeway to Antelope Island, on 8/5/2015. It’s not so fun to drive through a dust storm, which I’ve also done on occasion. CuzX https://www.flickr.com/gp/hiker56/706UifHU0N
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https://flic.kr/p/ok7E8W Out weather can get pretty wild in Northern Utah, especially around the GSL. I was on the causeway to Antelope Island and watched as this windstorm blew across the lake between Fremont Island and the Promontory Peninsula, and then as it headed south, snapping phone poles, and creating havoc before it finally dissipated. To be honest, I was getting pretty worried about
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n/t
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Furthermore, I would never be Elder V or new name E. I would choose, however, to keep SGT V and señor V (or maybe just 박병장). Yes,Sir, that would have suited me fine.
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