My dad was a convert, so I got to see both sides. I was raised in the church, but my dad strongly objected to quite a few of the cultural aspects and we were pretty ashamed of some of them. Here are a few: -Asking very personal questions to people you don't know personally. For example, fertility questions, etc. I can't even count how many people in the church have harassed me with questions
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He finished the first one, and went on to 'seasons' and now he's taking a break to detox. I got to the third level of the first one, but left my phone in the Manchester airport and haven't gotten it back yet. The withdrawal was ugly.
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The teachers I know have all kinds of innovative ideas but they are made impossible by fiscal and administrative constraints. It is complete ignorance to suggest that teachers don't view it as part of their jobs, or that they don't want to implement changes. They just don't have the resources, or the time, or the administrative freedom. The teachers I know are already working a double-shift at
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If he has any redeeming qualities at all, he walked away feeling like a total idiot. If not, he's probably the only one who doesn't know he's an idiot. Good for you!!!
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I check in with them periodically so as to not arouse suspicion, but I pretty much ignore the whole lot of them. I have a few TBM friends who post great food porn. I love pretty pictures of yummy eats, so I'm willing to tolerate the "my hubby is the best hubby in the world, he did the dishes for me today" bullshit and the churchy stuff from those few. All of my in-laws are hidden
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We're too broke right now with me still looking for a job. However, we had a really nice supper with my sister and my husband surprised me with a book on audio mastering that I had been wanting. Apparently he had picked it out a while back before we agreed that we were going low-key this year. It has been the best, least-stressful, Christmas I can remember. We've pretty much agreed that even
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I've read them all-- it's the first fiction I read whenever school gets out for the Summer. I've enjoyed the show too, but really they are pretty differing narrative-wise. You can read the books without spoiling the show and vice-versa.
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I sang in one of his choirs for a few years. I was easing out of belief at the time and it was one of the only church-related things I could stand. He's a genuinely brilliant and beautiful person, his wife is wonderful too. I think his belief can be explained by his upbringing. He's one of those Mormons that doesn't really bother me because he doesn't have the interpersonal arrogance tha
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One person said it was nice to finally get some "validation." I don't think they get irony.
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It was very exciting to me when the Greek Islanders came to RfM for the first time. I will never forget that. You and your sister are clearly lucky to have each other in your hearts.
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is definitely churchy. Western Willows is right, It's basically a money-making venture put on by Deseret Book. I narrowly escaped attending one when I lived in Nashville. Our stake had some tickets and a friend asked me to go-- as soon as I found out what it was, I wasn't interested. Even when I was a believing member, I wasn't cool with commercial ventures aimed at filling spiritual needs (the
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If it's meant with a passive-aggressive, corrective, shaming, or judgmental type of attitude, I just respond with a terse, "Heh." combined with a raised eyebrow, slight look of disgust and blunt redirection. I think of it as being like training a puppy with behavioral issues. If I make a big deal about it, it reinforces the negative behavior. If I don't really respond but to signal
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and I'm not just saying that, although I admit to some bias. Unless "white and nerdy" a la Donny Osmond is what counts, I don't remember seeing anything to lust after.
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I won't pretend it's a perfect, but when it comes down to it, I'm happy and I'd take him as my partner again any day.
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As we were discussing it this morning, I mentioned that to her and sent her the web address, at her request.
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to discover the 'underlying issue,' as you put it. Why don't you take this probing insight and work on discovering your own underlying issues? I don't think you are as helpful and well-intended as you might think you are.
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if you think you are helping as an internet psychologist operating on limited facts and zero personal experience.
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I know they have a coworker who has had big humanitarian adventures in Peru and I know that the friend is itching to get away. This could be the best thing ever for my sister-- I hope it is.
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lulu Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > And you're welcome for the diagnosis. Remember, > you posted asking for advice, saying I like the > variety of opinions here. And btw, talk about "infantilizing". Project much?
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so thanks again.
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I would do the same for ANY friend of mine who told me they wanted to go to Peru. It's not like I made any plans for them at all-- I passed along numbers.
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He just sent me some contacts of people he knows who can help her book an organized tour, and who can also help her out if they opt not to do the tour and she needs someone on the ground.
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