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Thank you for sharing this. For those of us raised with parents who thought that a Bishop asking children about masturbation is "normal" it's heartening to hear that there are parents who respect their children and will not allow them to sacrifice their personal boundaries to the church.
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So, hey everybody. I've been AWOL for a while since my crazy job has been limiting my time on the web, and because I just haven't had Mormonism on the brain much lately-- I know right? How cool is it to have the only Mormon drama in my life be Mitt Romney? Of course, it couldn't last and today it reared its ugly head again. DH has been struggling with his father's issues for years. FIL is p
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and I went off it cold turkey as soon as I heard about this thing. I've been back on the Krystal Chiks lately-- pretty tasty. I do miss the waffle fries though. Damn. If he had to have this attitude, I'm glad Mr. Chick-Fil-A opened his hateful mouth about it. I don't like the idea that I was unknowingly putting change in a bigot's pocket. I vote with my pennies, it might not be much, but th
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I had mixed feelings over the Mormons marching to begin with. Their posters just cited scripture and talked about love. That's all well and good, but incomplete-- particularly coming from a Mormon. Those posters were completely compatible with the kinds of crappy ideas I've heard from pulpits about loving the sinner but hating the sin. The history there can't just be overcome by love. It has t
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I would never consider living within easy driving distance of ANY of them. They would never notice, but there's a reason I know all about them and they know next to nothing about me. It's that I couldn't get a word in edgewise if I wanted to. There isn't enough room for me in that drama. Every conversation is entirely about them. Hell, every significant event in MY life ends up being about
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So, I used to be in a ward with Brother One-Man-Band. As full tithe-payers, he and his wife have been so blessed financially that in addition to his day-job, he has often been able to find supplemental gigs about town singing in his wobbly, churchy, overly-vibratoed voice and playing the hits of the 40's, 50's and 60's on his electronic keyboard at the finer establishments of our region (Panera
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Is he confused? He is a Mormon. He can't speak for the "we" he doesn't belong to.
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of me in my "apostate-wear", my sister-in-law will post something really nice about how great I look all the time. I feel sad that she can't wear clothes that make her feel that way about herself. Even though she's committed to modesty for herself, it's really clear that it's a sacrifice for her. She'd probably really enjoy dressing like a normal woman.
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I don't think church activities hold much interest for young people outside the church. For kids raised in the church who have had sheltered lives, I'm sure church activities are as exciting as they have ever been.
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"Never confuse what you need to say with what someone else needs to hear. They are not always one and the same". You had your say in your email, and maybe he needed to hear it (or not). But, you can't control his reaction or his level of understanding. You put it out there and at this time it's probably time to be done with him, and move back to more important things-- like you an
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I don't have words. My condolences to you and your family. <3
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I think you're right about the ideological trap-- Mitt's in check.
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However calculated and shrewd a move this might be, and for whatever political gain, it will go a ways toward normalizing attitudes of justice and equality. I'm grateful to both POTUS and VPOTUS this week for saying the right things. Now, if they could DELIVER on their ideals a little more bravely (recognizing that ending DADT and instructing the Justice Department not to defend DOMA were ad
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of Utah is a mall? Another fine reminder of Mormon god's screwy priorities. How unsurprising that Mormon god is a capitalist who thinks that making rich people richer is the best way to make Zion even more amazing than it (supposedly) already is. Never mind the people living in storage units-- luxury apartments are what god wants for his headquarters.
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I think Dew is one of the saddest cases in contemporary Mormonism. Here's a smart, capable woman who will never fit into the Mormon-woman mold, and yet she allows herself to be used to both make Mormonism appear to accept things it does not (powerful, independent women) and to promote a way of conceptualizing gender roles and authority that basically condemns her. In the patriarchy of which she
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Coffee is not crack cocaine and sugar is a bigger threat to human health. Coffee is not the dangerous element Mormons make it out to be. There are real problems that should be dealt with long before anyone worries about a four year old and few sips of coffee.
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We're probably the only nonmo fb friends he has, which made it easy to spot this for what it is. It's not meant to sway nonbelievers. It's meant to make Mormons feel like they should take themselves seriously.
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the shrieking "oww" around :10 is me and my BFFs.
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Give it the attention it deserves: Either completely ignore it, or delete it quietly. If the friend asks why, tell her that if she wants to discuss the church and the Book of Mormon, you can do lunch and have a real conversation. If she doesn't want to do lunch, and you feel like you didn't get any satisfaction for taking the high road, send her a link to "the facebook song" my
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I can't wait to hear whatever baloney they come up with to explain it.
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I just snorted so loud the dog woke up in a fright. That is genuinely hilarious. It never ends.
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I told my mother I thought the church was a cult, and her response was "Well, I don't like the stigma attached to that word, but your (TBM) father and I agree with you. We have thought for years that The church technically meets the definition, and there are some negative cultish behaviors among members. It's a problem we have and we need to work on it." So basically, my parents thin
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It's not exactly a large school-- like less than a thousand students-- so the Mormon influence isn't noticeable off campus. The south is not really a region that is going to be taken over by Mormons.
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Instant grits are an abomination.
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