Beth, most of us focus on me, me, me, especially, and understandably, in the tougher situations, such as your current one and others in the past, recent or otherwise. (Whew, that could be the most commas I've ever put in one sentence).
Survival instinct focuses ourselves on ourselves and that's the nature of the beast. It keeps us around to fight another day.
We can maybe stand 5 hrs of not
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