Sweety, you need to take your therapist's advice and just walk away. While that is very difficult, you will be much healthier in the long run. Your family is toxic to you. I am so very sorry you have had to go through all of that abuse. You are not helpless. You are a very strong woman who is also a survivor!! You are still here and you still care about other people and that says a whol
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Personally, I don't like wine and find that most of the time it gives me a headache even after just one glass. However, I do very much like Moscato. It's an Italian dessert wine that had a very sweet flavor and might be a good starter wine for you.
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Glad you made it out of there alive! What started that fire anyway? I heard a rumor about a fire in a trash can in the boys restroom.
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Do you still live in the area? My immediate family were not members of the morg and had quite the reputation which pretty much made me an outcast from day one. We did, however, descend from Mormon pioneer stock who settled the area early on. I miss some things. The mountains, City of Rocks, the river. Now I live in Texas and while I love it here, a part of my heart will always be there!
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Coffee, the sweet nectar of the morning that kickstarts my day! All Hail the Goddess Caffeina!
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I grew up in Burley and still have a lot of family there thanks to my Mormon pioneer ancestors. Had to leave the state to find some fresh DNA for future children. I swear I'm related to almost everyone in that part of Idaho! The last time I went back to visit my family was about five years ago. Kind of sad to hear about this. I remember when they built that Albertsons. I was in elementary
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I was abused and neglected by both dad and his wife for five years when I lived with them. I bought my own clothes, paid for my own school lunches, and even bought my own personal hygeine products. There was too much to go into here, but when I finally escaped after high school I never went back. A few years ago I confronted my dad about it all and the tendency he and his wife have to comple
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My youngest brother is TBM and married in the temple. I live a thousand miles away and the fam wanted me to show up at my own expense. I didn't have a TR nor did I have any desire to get one. At the time my husband was in and out of the hospital with exacerbations due to multiple sclerosis so I told them I couldn't go. They never forgave me for that.
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Two of my grandchildren have two moms. In every way they are a normal family. The only difference is they have two moms, not a mom and a dad. they have a lot of love in their home, good old fashioned "family values" and the children are very well adjusted, smart, loving and accepting. Their family is much less dysfunctional than many so called straight families. Children learn wh
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A few weeks ago I received a notice in the mail from Amegy Overdraft Settlement Administrator. Amegy Bank used to be a small, local, Texas based bank that was bought by Zions Bancorp a few years ago, much to my dismay. There is a class action lawsuit against them for the way in which they "improperly posted debit card transactions from highest to lowest dollar amount to increase the number
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I hate it, too, spaghetti-o. In fact, this year I'm not putting up a tree, no decorations, no lights. Nothing. My husband and I can't afford to buy presents for anyone and I feel horrible about that. But we're trying to keep from losing our home and that's more important. Also, I work in retail. I've been listening to that darn Christmas music since Thanksgiving and I'm weary of it now.
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This is just crazy. I'd be tempted to put a box on my doorstep with all of the "gifts" that have been previously left for this person to see. Maybe add a note, in very large letters, saying you don't want these gifts and to stop.
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After a lifetime of having a very dysfunctional relationship with my mom and at least three or four years of not speaking to one another at all (after she left me and went home when my son died with no explanation and turned the whole rest of the family against me. I still don't know what the problem was), my mother contacted me on her deathbed. Can you please come home? I'm dying. I had no i
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I was one of those. My main issues were where the BOM actually came from and the commitments I had made in the temple. It was all completely blown out of the water and I finally felt free years later when I went to a spiritual event and saw much of what I had taken part of in the temple being done during the ritual by those who had never been members of the morg. I'd still like to know whe
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Hang in there. My exhusband was the same way and had me completely freaked out all the time. Do you live with your dad? If so, just remember you won't have to live with him for the rest of your life and will be able to move out and away before too many more years. If you don't, then you don't have to listen to or put up with his crazy.
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You can rent it from amazon.com or iTunes and watch it if you really feel the need to do so. Personally, I liked the show and it opened up a whole new set of questions. As a dedicated Whovian, I really enjoyed it. And no, I am not going to answer your questions. You'll just have to watch it!
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They always immediately jump to the conclusion that we must be "sinning" in some way when we figure out the truth. With me it was drugs and alcohol. My family decided I was an addict/alcoholic when I left even though I have never touched drugs in my life and I only have an alcoholic beverage about 1-2 times a year.
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This was my last straw, too. When I realized I could not teach the children something I didn't believe, I just couldn't do it. I could not lie to those kids. I called the bishop, told him I quit and walked away from the church for the last time.
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As the mother of a very butch lesbian who came out to me as a teenager, I feel the need to tell you that you are doing a great job. Sometimes it can be hard for us as parents, letting go of the dreams and ideals and concepts we have of our children from the time they are born (and before). My daughter wears men's clothing and hair styles but she does not self identify as a male. Her voice
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Years ago while working in Provo, I had a boss who kept staring at my rather bodacious tatas whenever he spoke to me. It really drove me crazy. I always dressed modestly at work and never, ever wore anything even remotely revealing. One day we were standing in the filing room and he was staring at those tatas while he was talking to me and I'd had enough. So I got down on my knees, looked
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If you want to see where you visitors are coming from, how long they stay and what they're looking at, you might want to try statcounter.com. You can pay for it or you can use it for free, depending on your needs. I think it would be intersting to know what your visitors are reading and how much time they're spending looking at different things. Congratulations! This is a good thing you
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So mote it be!
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Oh yes, it will be! We'll be social networking the old school way -- drums, fire, dancing and laughing people in the forest. Pretty awesome!
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I work in one of the big box stores with a very culturally diverse group of fellow employees. In some ways, we are family and I enjoy working with them very much. We watch out for one another and take care of each other. Some of them are very passionate about every aspect of life and every time we greet one another hugs are involved. On my first day of work, upon being introduced to one of
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I learned today, via FB, that the church and NOM are being accused of violating Hawaii election laws. No big surprise there. http://thenewcivilrightsmovement.com/mormon-church-and-nom-accused-of-violating-hawaii-election-laws/marriage/2013/10/28/77530#.Um6_nFPOTW4 Good luck Hawaii! I hope you vote to legalize gay marriage there. Equality for all!
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No, no, no! I let my daughter go to a baptist church with a friend a few times. She was six. I didn't think it would do any harm. Then one day she came home sobbing, inconsolable. She had been told that day that if she didn't accept Jesus in her heart, she would burn in hell. I never let her go back. If they teach their little ones that, I didn't want my daughter to have any part of
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Yes! In fact, I'll be off dancing in the woods around a bonfire next weekend celebrating Samhain. I am ecclectic, meaning I draw from different paths, but mostly the Sumerian deities. Last weekend in Texas there was a HUGE gathering with hundreds of people from all over the state gathered to celebrate Samhain but I had to work (darn it) so didn't go. Interestingly, I found that the morg t
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The last time the missionaries showed up on my doorstep, after being told I didn't want them there several times, I told them that next time I'd be answering the door naked. Now I wouldn't actually do that, but they don't know that. That was over three years ago. Haven't seen them since. Funny thing, we have sister missionaries now. They still haven't knocked on my door.
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When did it become the rule that to baptize another person, one must hold a current temple recommend, be a full tithe payer and active in the church? It used to be that just having the phood was good enough.
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I am so sorry for your loss. Nearly ten years ago my 22 year old son died unexpectedly in a car accident. It took me close to two years before I felt anything close to "normal" again. I don't think I'll ever go back to being the person I was before, his death changed me in ways I still cannot explain. You will find your new "normal" with time and you will eventually
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