I'm a proponent of a formal letter to remove my name or membership from any organization, or possibly employment. I also prefer a formal letter recognizing my action. For me, personally, getting that letter confirming I was no longer a member was very important. It was a physical notification that my word in a letter, was taken seriously. It removed my name so they had no reason to contact me
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Hedning Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- Great idea. That is the way to have a rational, reasonable impact.
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Nice that you two are in agreement. Not the case with me. This is when you can work together and figure out a World View that makes sense to both of you. Might not be the same. My view is to stay very quiet about your choice to leave the LDS Church. It's a personal matter, no need to discuss it with people who will do everything they can to make your life miserable. And, they are good at doing
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Teenagers, and often adults, have a hard time knowing which issues to buck. It's important, in my view, to pick your battles carefully. And, know the consequences and if you are willing to pay the price. If your school, work, church, group, team, band, and on and on and on has a dress code, (and other requirement and restrictions) and you want to participate, it behooves you to make cohesive c
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Sounds like a great trip. I'm in the wrong area of the country but I want to hear all about it!
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Ya... I'd feel put-down. Been there, done that. Oh yes. The trials that come up in a long marriage - surprises! I got that "look" many times. You know the one. He is trying to be polite but you know he is letting you know you're a total idiot! We had some differences of "how to" in our long marriage. One was "how to do the dishes." I showed him how I did it. H
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I don't think the Mormon Church will collapse, not unless something catastrophic happens because: 1) People will believe anything based on faith not facts 2) The Mormon Church is well established with enough believers to keep it going from generation to generation 3) The financial empire of the Mormon Church is not likely to collapse 4) It has a 50-60% majority in UT including running the
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This is one of my posts. It's lengthy. (My husband died Jan 2013. We had a lovely LDS funeral with all of our children participating. He remained a believer.) REPOST-Long: Staying Married-How I made it work with a believing husband. This is part of my personal history. It has been updated a few times. The core topic is how I stayed married and made it work with a believing husband. I am r
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elderolddog Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Hahahahaha! Remember that time you shot a guy and > the coroner's office lost the body and all they > could charge you with was littering because you > didn't pick up your brass? > > Ah, man... Good times! Stop, stop, you're killing me! Just have to keep this thread going for a few more
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Of all the new names, I like Ziontologists best. That ought to make Russ and Wendy happy. At least they are not being called...(HORRORS) Mormons!
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wow.. don't know where to start. Interesting, though, how other people think they understand Mormonism.
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So sorry for your loss. My best wishes to you and your loved ones.
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The images of Joseph Smith, Jr. used by the Mormon Church have changed many times over the years. Many years ago, I saw Bryce Chamberlain do his one man show of the life of Joseph Smith, Jr. at BYU, including explaining the use of make up and how he combed his hair, because of scars after he and Sydney Rigden were tarred and feathered. Today, I found this YouTube from 2016, showing vari
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Scrubbed? As in scrubbed clean from a good bath, clean feet, elbows, etc.? Sounds good to me! One of the things about our English Language -- the wonderful list of different meanings of the same words. It's one of the mysteries of the Internet. Stuff goes bye-bye, never to be seen again. Sometimes, it's our own fault, sometimes we are caught in the snare, or, just scrubbed. Either way, we
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I've heard him speak (on TV, of course) and was struck by how weird he is. Even his wife couldn't contain herself and had to correct him. My personal view is that there is something very, very wrong with that man. He is not mentally well.
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Oh? That? Simple. A member of the Mormon Church! :-)
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Ahhh. Yes. "Stuck in that "blob of amber." Works for me! Smart, educated people with faith-beliefs hermetically sealed in some far part of their brain.
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Wow. That took me back! It was the duck-tail coif that the greasers sported along with their T-shirt sleeves rolled up with a pack of cigs. My cool brother, (with hay-fever, no such thing as allergies in those days), had his nasal spray in the other rolled up sleeve. He maintained the better coif - the crew cut - well into his years as a long time senior. :-)
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My thoughts....hmmm. Refuse to engage in negativity. Be unavailable for long harangues. Let them know it's OK to question, research and make their own conclusions. There is nothing wrong with them. Be a rock of peace and harmony. :-)
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According to this article, a month ago, he is held on $1 mil bail, awaiting examination of mental health evaluation to stand trial. No motive known at this time. Maybe someone in the area has an update they can share. http://www.kolotv.com/content/news/Oconnor-due-in-court-today-on-Fallon-murder-charges-489095521.html
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Dreams, visions, revelations. Whatever works. Biblical stories are big on the meaning of dreams and seeking them for the purpose of guiding others. It's a major skill attributed to a prophet. The Mormon Church is being led by a nearly 94 year old man. What else is there but his dreams? Is it just me, or does he and Wendy often have very smug expressions?
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ulRnhZnkeM
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Give me whole milk - 4% fat. What other product is 96% fat free? Sounds good to me. I use the lactose free type. Tastes great. At my age, one of the few things left to enjoy is....taste. I'll take the little bit of fat!
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Oh sure. This is what they want in their rooms. Wonder how many people actually read these "Holy Books."
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OK. My view. My comments come from my experiences as a Court Appointed Monitor for Court Supervised Visitation. You two are no longer a match, for a variety of reasons. A relationship can rarely survive resentment. The fault-finding is her saying she doesn't want you around, anymore. Another counselor is pointless. Trust is gone. Learn to protect yourself against false claims.
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One of the worse old unwritten laws of the gospel: "lying for the Lord" is still pervasive. I ran into it, way too many times in my 35 + years as a member. Add that to an inflated male ego with a God complex and away they go. Amazingly, one time a bishop admitted he lied, (did other bizarre stuff later, though), another time a male teacher came to my home to apologize. Soon, I w
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I like the new "ministering" label. It's much more compassionate and caring. I'm no longer a member, but when I talk with a member, and I show I care and have concerns for their trials, or share something I know they will like that fits with their beliefs, this now is recognized as "ministering". Happened to me recently. One of the best ways I've found to keep the friendshi
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Felix Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I think I am capable of swimming in the mire that > sometimes occurs here but choose not to per my and > board admin wishes to not have this forum turn > into a mud slinging fest. > > If this were my forum those who are incapable of > keeping it civil would be banned. That pretty much > would
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If you're going to post anonymously and read to strangers on an open forum in black and white print, better put on that Duck Suit and let stuff run off your back. It's likely you'll run square into the real world which can be a shock and surprise. Opinions, strong feelings, hate, anger, frustration, meanness, vulgarity, swearing, a large expanse of life topics in Mormonism are going to run r
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I've thought about going back, but I tend to see the humor and would probably leave, snickering.
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