I would posit that Mormon faith is especially focused on denial, why other ways toward viewing God are more flexible to observation and change. It is definitely hard to find it in most organized religions, but more people and churches are realizing that they cannot live by denial alone.
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It's a great site. Has commentary from both current Mo's and ex Mo's. I find it refreshing that it gives people that safe space to share experiences of discomfort in the Mormon culture.
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"But they don't know who I am anymore" That is exactly what it feels like to leave. I haven't resigned since my break is recent, but I have kept my decision under wraps because I know many of my Mormon friends would not understand. Keep going!
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It is notorious that Saturday Night Live was blocked by Mormon, Inc.'s KSL for years. I think some independent station eventually picked it up.
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Periodically they do service projects, but it is mostly about selling Mormon, Inc. Don't let the missionaries in - once you let in the camel into the tent, you'll get the whole camel (meaning they'll never leave you alone). Don't buy the false friendliness. They're just trying to get you to join and start paying tithes. Just be true to yourself and don't feel pressured into anything.
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Your mom said you are not smart enough for college? There are so many places to go near you that don't require a 4.0 - UVU, Provo College, tech schools, among others. Maybe head up to Utah State or down to Dixie? I would say, just say that the answer to your prayer is that you need more time to make your decision. Don't say it is a definite "yes" or "no" to the parents.
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I did a full time service mission due to medical concerns, and yeah it just strengthened my indoctrination. It wasn't until after another two years at BYU where I met a professor and students who encouraged me to question things and seek knowledge that I really took that step to leave the church and transfer to a state school (P.S. I bet that awesome professor will leave once they find a better g
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I heard about this from a contact (who still thinks I'm active lol). It will be interesting to see, but like most changes in Mormon, Inc., it comes short of the actual changes needed to end decades of abuses and homophobia.
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Welcome man. I commend you on your courage. I would say that the momentary pain you may feel now is definitely worth the greater happiness you feel as you live your true identity and not feel forced into something you are not. I encourage you to seek support from friends and family who are on your side. Going to a therapist might help if you feel the church/family situation is causing you emot
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Loving this thread! I think Mormons play the card because it distracts them from the people whom they persecute among their own community - LGBT who choose to "act" on their feelings, individuals who feel like they never measure up to societal expectations, and intellectually minded members who question the church's pitfalls.
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Thanks, I am no longer in Utah (thank god) and I will definitely not be Catholic for exactly those reasons. Non denominational churches are big here in California, so I am checking those out when I feel like it. Many people where I am at are also not very religious, and people don't label themselves primarily by their religion.
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So I left the Mormon Church recently for many reasons. Part of it was its stances toward sexuality, others were about the history, and in general its closed ways of thinking. I had to fake my faith my last semester at BYU to keep my academic eligibility, and am transferring to a state school now. At BYU that semester, I felt like I was in prison or in a fascist state. My matrix and delusion ha
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It's because Mo, Inc. is trying to brand their church as "Christian" and appeal to people from that background.
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It's so sad... how can we tell someone they should be denied love because they love differently? The LGBT issue was one of the big reasons why I left, I hated seeing my gay friends hurt so much from Mo Inc.
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This just shows that Mo's need HQ to tell them how to change when in reality they can make greater change by not believing that B.S. anymore. I used to always try to be an apologist and defend the church to my friends who weren't indoctrinated because I felt I needed to fit that B.S. It is so liberating to be free from it.
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Thank you :) I'm not sure when I'll get to the point to notify HQ, but I definitely do feel the need to separate. That's exciting to see your growth.
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Yeah I found trouble supporting a big church because every one of them had a crazy history. Buddhists really don't - that says something... I like smaller non-denominational churches too because most haven't had crazy histories.
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That sounds insane. Is your daughter still involved with the church? Is she ok? (If it's too personal, don't mind answering). Often, leaders feel they can get meddled in family stuff because they think the church supersedes boundaries people set for their families. You know that better than me. I used to resent my dad because I felt he wasn't active enough and didn't have a recommend. This
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Good advice, thank you. I have reconnected with non-Mormon high school friends, and religion isn't a dealbreaker like with my old Mormon ones. I'll be commuting from home, but a club would be fun and just continuing to be open to new people is good.
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And my mother invites them into our home since I moved back in to save some money. She is not super active, but she likes her visiting teachers. She did say it was out of place for them to come over unannounced and knock on our door, so I appreciate her support in that. I used to play some church basketball even after my departure, but I don't even feel comfortable doing that anymore. If I com
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Fake friends and mindless activities. Well said!
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I agree with you, Amy. I'm trying out some local churches, but not rushing into things or being overzealous about religion like I once was.
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So I left the Mormon Church recently for many reasons. Part of it was its stances toward sexuality, others were about the history, and in general its closed ways of thinking. I had to fake my faith my last semester at BYU to keep my academic eligibility, and am transferring to a state school now. Ever since I got back and it became apparent to the local wards I wasn't there, they have been bu
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