Posted by:
sassypants
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Date: August 31, 2014 09:22PM
Yes and an amen (not really a religious amen though)! My family was a hotbed of misery, but we always had to present a picture of affluent perfection. It's something that takes years to unravel..so I get where you're coming from.
In my case, I feel that my family would have been full of problems irrespective. What TSCC did was take those problems and pile a lot more on top. Salvation through the Mormon god was a weapon in the hands of my mother.
If your mom was really that successful at manipulation, it may be that she has a couple of personality disorders working in concert. Have you read "Understanding the Borderline Mother"? It talks about archetypes that can shift or appear in concert. One of the archetypes is "the waif", or playing the victim. It's fascinating reading.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0765703319?pc_redir=1409138264&robot_redir=1Also www.bpdfamily.com is a great resource and support group. It has plenty of information and you'll learn that narcissists and combined borderlines/narcissists/sociopaths, seem to be very attracted to one another; marriages between the two are common.
Of course, I'm taking a leap in assuming you don't know about this stuff. So, sorry if I'm just rehashing what you already know. :-)