Posted by:
exminion
(
)
Date: February 16, 2018 08:06PM
BenTaylor asked, "Is it worth fighting?"
No, you don't have to fight. Yes, it is worthwhile to keep your child from being brainwashed under the influence of an evil cult. Remember, Mormonism is an institution that you, yourself, can not tolerate or deal with--and you are a grown man! Don't expect your little helpless child to deal with Mormon creepiness.
I agree that you shouldn't make fun of your wife's religion. Don't argue with her. Give your family all the individual, personal, one-on-one attention, and especially unconditional LOVE, that they will never find in the Mormon church. The more you give to them, the more they will want it in their life.
You can answer questions honestly, carefully and politely.
You can read your daughter Bible stories (if you still believe) and Aesop's Fables, to teach her ethics, justice, fairness, morality, and all that good stuff.
The Mormon cult pretends to be "the best way to raise children", but that is just another lie.
Yes, the Mormon Primary is teaching your daughter (or will in the future) that because YOU don't pay tithing and attend the temple, that all of you are not a "forever family." All of my children were taught that our family members would be alone in the hereafter, where we would "walk past each other as strangers. I, of course, refused to teach that lesson, as a Primary teacher. I also refused to teach that those who were not good Mormons would "burn at the second coming." Some fanatics in our ward referred to tithing as "burn insurance." My children had nightmares from those lessons.
You will feel better if you decide for yourself, exactly where you stand. For example, are you officially "inactive", meaning you are out from under the pressure of paying tithing? If you are completely out, does your wife know this? How is she accepting our non-attendance? I don't know how much you can tell her, or what.
My husband took a stand, and did not support the cult in any way, including paying any money, going to any meetings, our children's performances, talks, Scouts, baptisms, blessings--ZERO. In return for his freedom (which I felt he should have as a human being, anyway) he promised that he would interfere with the children and I attending. He didn't plan anything for those 3 hours on Sunday, or argue, or try to make things difficult. We eventually followed him out, and resigned from Mormonism together.
What you decide to do depends on where you are in the process of escaping the cult. This could be a good opportunity to let everyone know, or at least to open up some good dialog.
To postpone until the child is 18 is a great solution for a lot of mixed-religon couples I know. The Mormon cult does not approve of this, because the odds are that an 18-year-old can think for herself, and is going to have access to the Truth, and will not want to join a controlling cult. This is also the age to be a missionary, and high school graduates are usually eager to go to college or start out with a job, and still play and enjoy their youth.
When my granddaughter was baptized, I celebrated her 8th birthday, helped with her birthday party, gave her a nice gift, etc. For her baptism, I did nothing to support it. Silence.
Had she been my child, I would have tried to prevent it.