Posted by:
Mother Who Knows
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Date: March 29, 2018 06:10PM
I'm with Summer and Darren Steers, and the others who are trying to admonish you to STOP.
I am a BYU graduate. A lot of these posters have been to BYU. When someone, like Gatorman, says "I've been there," please believe that many of us really have been there!
I had a battle with my own TBM in-laws. They blamed me for my husband's leaving Mormonism. He left the church first, when he found out the Truth. I was still an active member, along with our children, and was the ward organist and Cub Scout den mother. Still, my mother-in-law pestered me with phone-calls, telling me "It is up to the wife to provoke the husband to righteousness." Two years later, when I finally realized Mormonism is a cult, I resigned, along with our children. My mother-in-law set out to destroy our marriage. I know this, from warnings from several relatives. My MIL was a control-freak. She succeeded! My FIL died, and my MIL disinherited my ex-husband and all our children. We were not sealed in the temple, like her other children and grandchildren. My ex-husband never returned to the church. He lives in a shack, with his woman-of-the-hour, and 6 dogs, and has separated from his entire family.
I also have several friends who have left the cult, and have had their marriages break up, due to pressure from the in-laws.
It's a sad commentary about the Mormons, that your story, Mightybuffalo, is not unique. The newer the marriage, the greater the likelihood of it breaking up over Mormon-ex-Mormon religious differences. When you have no children, the breakup is even more likely.
Honest TBM is right. Any more input from you, any new information about you, will be used AGAINST you!
Your letter is well-written, and polite-but-firm, and I find no fault in it. It might have been beneficial for your wife to have read it.
But, please do not send it. You are exposing weakness. The Mormons will think they are "winning", and will step up their game. Again, it will be used against you.
Please, as a former BYU student and a BYU graduate, I'm begging you to hold off until after you have that diploma in your hand.