Mother Who Knows
Date: May 08, 2018 11:51AM
I'm sorry to see that YW's has not changed. You would think the Mormons would try to keep up with the times.
You are wise for your years! You are ready to take charge of your own life. I'm NOT talking about rebelling, arguing, or making a fool of yourself. I'm talking about ADDING things to your life. Don't depend on just church for your fun and activities.
Add more studying to your life. Your parents can't argue against that. Read anything you want to read. You can read anytime, anywhere. Read during boring church meetings. Read alone in your room, if your parents are bothering you. Reading is the classic escape--and it's parent-approved.
I had a bully brother at home, so I joined some after-school sports teams. My favorite was tennis. I also did high-jumping. In high school, I was a cheerleader. These kept me busy and "obligated." In addition to the sports, were "sports meetings" and "official practices" and other excuses to not join in the YW homemaking meetings.
I played the piano, and accompanied the school choir and other groups. This got me out of a lot of church stuff. Sometimes the school choir would sing on Sundays at other churches, which I thought was fun. Playing at Christmas time put me in the Christmas spirit--Mormons hardly celebrate Christmas at all. Later, I evaded the more boring callings, and didn't have to teach lies to children, because I was the primary pianist and the ward organist.
Whatever it is you like to do--pursue that! The Mormon church used to teach women to "magnify your talents."
Training service dogs, bicycling, skiing, music, going to the library, babysitting for money, other after-school jobs, volunteering at the hospital or in the community--there are hundreds of ways you can enhance your life! My niece liked dancing, and she needed money, so she taught dancing to little kids. I taught swimming at the community pool, and tennis at a summer school. Money will bring you more freedom to go get ice cream with friends, or see a movie, or pay for gas, when you drive.
Seriously, no matter what, it always pays off to be nice.