Posted by:
exminion
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Date: August 30, 2018 07:07AM
One key principle: It's better to be alone than in bad company. (old Mexican saying!)
Thank you EOD for this saying! I always felt this way, and it feels very affirming to know it's an old saying!
I was "balanced" about the Mormons I knew. Some of them physically and verbally abused my children! They all lied to us. They disrespected us, because we were a "broken home." I was a working mother. Bla-bla. There's no excuse to be cruel to another human being. I did like a few of them--my so-called "friends".
Now, after losing all my TBM "friends" and being shunned, I honestly agree with the OP, that this group is REPULSIVE.
Shunning is supposed to make you feel so lonely and un-loved, that you go crawling back to the cult. Shunning opened my eyes at how rude and shallow and brainwashed with lies the Mormons really are.
Starting over was a joy for me! It was energizing, and exciting. I was giddy with freedom. My children were exulting with me. We skied on Sundays, and sometimes worked on Sundays, and Saturdays were free, as well.
Look at your life, lowpriest, and you will see that you don't have to "start over", at all! You are free to enjoy what is already in your life! The MOrmon cult gives you nothing that is real and lasting. It only TAKES from you. It takes away your self esteem, your money, your freedom on the weekends, your relationships, your energy, your joy, your soul. You are free to be the true person you have always been.
You already have love! The most important love in your life is the love you hold in your own heart. That's the only love you can really count on! I learned that lesson the hard way, but I have more love in my life than I ever imagined.
Your family is still there. You don't have to start over. You can make a fresh start. There's a difference. You can be honest, now. The ones who love you will come around. I was surprised that my parents didn't believe in the temple at all, and they didn't believe in polygamy in heaven, and they never wore their garments. My closest cousins quit the Mormon cult, and we are closer, as fellow "conspirators in crime." My children are closer than ever, and they love me all the more, for rescuing them from the "cult of hatred and despair".
If you work, you have colleagues. Colleagues can be even more satisfying than "friends", because you are working together to accomplish something, and you bring each other energy, instead of draining energy. My colleagues are very upbeat and interesting. We also laugh a lot. Not one of them is Mormon.
Your best "support system" is your doctors, nurses, local police and fire fighters, Instacare, a good mechanic, a good plumber, your mailman and garbage collectors. These people offer the best professional help. A bishop or home teacher will give you a "blessing"--what is that. Nothing that really helps. When you lose a loved one, a plate of cookies just doesn't do it. Having someone tell you to suck it up and go teach your Sunday school class ANYWAY, is not helpful. All that most Mormons care about is their stupid cult. You have lost nothing.
You aren't "starting over", you are continuing on your life path, unfettered by that dark cloud that was dragging you down and holding you back.
I'm excited for you! Congratulations on finding the truth, and standing by it!