Posted by:
Mother Who Knows
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Date: January 06, 2019 04:43PM
Waiting a year would be too rational and loving. Mormon couples are THREATENED with judgments, accusations, and gossip. (Half of the Mormon marriages would not last the year, anyway.)
All of my daughter's siblings, her father and his wife, her unmarried bridesmaids and cousins; the grooms younger brothers and sisters, and the other "un-endowed ones", had to sit outside in that very crowded waiting room (the holding pen for the unworthies.) Only the groom's parents and two returned missionary friends were at the ceremony. I was the only one there, on my daughter's side, too, and it cost me several thousand dollars in tithing!
Many temple couples demand that their so-called bridesmaids and groomsmen, and family dress up for the temple photographs. I said that it was adding insult to injury, for them to wear expensive clothes in the blistering heat, and be herded about the grounds in uncomfortable shoes, standing in line to be photographed on ugly stone steps, in front of a huge, out-of-proportion, imposing closed door!
I think that photographers use the stone temple as contrast--the warmth and hope of new love juxtaposed against the cold harshness of cold, hard Mormonism.
The door was FAKE, and didn't open into anything--just like the whole religion.
If "loved ones" are going to be pulled off the street to be posed in front of a building they are banned from entering, they damned-well be "allowed" to wear STREET CLOTHES. Later, they all dressed up and enjoyed the lovely reception (which was grand, but cost less than the tithing I had to pay out).
As it was, my daughter wasn't allowed to wear her wedding dress at her temple wedding, without having it covered with long sleeves and a large bib-like dickey, and the heavy robes and smothering thick veil. The dress and her hair were a mess for the photos. The groom's family had hired the photographer, and I did not by any of the temple photos--only a few from the reception.
I told my daughter that her REAL wedding was the reception, and when they signed the legal marriage license.