Date: June 01, 2019 07:45PM
I have been struck by many parallels between your dysfunctional Mormon family and mine, Don.
I'm so sorry things turned out this way for you! You certainly are not responsible.
It is no surprise that the poison has infected your sisters and your mother. My oldest brother, his gold-digger wife, and his con-man son were faithful Mormon RM's, and bishopric members, and constant temple-goers. They criticized everyone else for not being religious enough. These family members stole all of my father's estate, and almost all of my mother's estate. When our second-oldest brother died, they tried to grab from his estate, too, but the rest of the family sued, and did recover 1/2 of what we should have had.
The suing process took years, and it was Hell. The worst part was having to deal with those horrible people--having to talk to them, listen to their garbage, and hate them so much that I would shake with anger. It was making me ill.
You must be relieved that your horrible relatives are no longer in your life! You don't have to listen to their fake religious garbage, or their lying accusations, anymore!
Of course they undermine you! They are fleecing you!
Behind my back, my brother tried to get my house, (because my father had once put some money into it), and become the "Trustee" for me. I found out, through my job, that my house was being appraised. My brother and his wife always bad-mouthed me to my parents, and told them not to help me out, when I got divorced. They said divorce was evil. They said I was a poor judge of character, because my husband had abandoned me and our children, and I might marry another flake. They said I was not responsible to manage on my own, so I needed y brother to be my "Trustee". I had a successful career, which I seemed to manage just fine!
The REAL sociopaths are the ones who try to take advantage and capitalize on the weaknesses of others. They honestly do not care what happens to anyone else. I would not let my crook brother take the roof over my children's heads, so I hired a well-respected attorney, proved that my ex and I had paid back my father, and we saved what was rightfully ours.
Why is it so hard to take those sucker-punches? Why does it still upset us so much, every time it happens?
Maybe it's because they get away with it. That's another thing your family and mine have in common. They get away with it. They never own up to it. They never stop. Often, it carries on through generations. Keep these people away from your children.
We can't expect any other type of behavior from them, than what these abusers have exhibited all their lives.
Good riddance. It's worth a lot to have them GONE.