Date: October 09, 2019 11:49PM
He's off doing his "adore me, give me adulation, respect me, obey me" schtick as a big shot.
She and he have nothing in common, no common interests, no occasion or opportunity to spend any kind of quality time together.
The only things that bring them together:
(1) His job as a "spiritual leader" and religious "authority" requires him to set a good example by being "happily married". It is therefore essential for her to be by his side on special occasions playing the role of his "for time and all eternity" wife.
(2) Her status, her children's status, her financial well-being and their financial well being...depend on Bedknob continuing to be successful in his career as a lifetime leader guy in the church. A public separation (or worse) could really jeopardize his upward mobility and influence (even though he technically can't be fired from his Apostle gig at this point). So she's willing to play along, as long as it's just a few days out of each month. Most of the time, she's probably happy to have him out on the road and out of the home when he's doing unaccompanied tours.
Date: October 13, 2019 08:44AM
I think I said this once before on another thread, but to stay looking young the best thing to do is exercise and get in shape, eat healthy, avoid sugar, drink lots of water, look after your hair and skin, dress in a way that is flattering to you. Do all that and you won’t need cosmetic surgery.
I see a lot of mormon middle aged women who forego these basic things, then slap on some lipstick and expensive clothes. And of course they are probably unhappy too, which doesn’t help. They also seem to avoid being sexy, which makes sense. But look at someone like Jennifer Lopez who looks amazing for a fifty something year old, and compare.
Is it wrong to put that much effort into maintaining your looks? IMO, no. And given that most of these GA wives don’t work, they have the time and money. But it will never happen. It’s seen as selfish in the mormon world.
Mormon women are not allowed to take the time to invest in themselves. Then to add insult to injury a husband then says “she used to be pretty”.
Mormon women taking good care of themselves is seen as a bad thing.
If Susan Bednar grew her hair, lifted some weights, did yoga, wore flattering make up, and used good skincare products, and wore fashionable clothes, went for a massage, and divorced her leech of a husband, she’d probably look freakin’ amazing. Just as anyone would.
Of course beauty is in the eye of the beholder, it’s all subjective anyway. But could you ever imagine this for a GA wife? No. They don’t seem to have the choice, or maybe they think it’s wrong...
Date: October 13, 2019 01:08PM
I agree with everything you said.
Genes also play an important role. My family has been blessed by Mother Nature with great genes, particularly in the skin department. My mother is sitting in a nursing home without a single wrinkle. Yes, she's white haired, frail, and weak BUT she hasn't a wrinkle on her. People never believe her when she says she is in her mid-90's because of her skin.
It's true she did not smoke, which I believe plays a big role. However, Mom wasn't big on working out, but did eat pretty healthy, mostly fresh, foods. Living in the Midwest, she ate plenty of red meat and butter. That hasn't seemed to have hurt her. She has a very healthy heart. She hardly ever drank anything alcoholic but did taste a little sherry now and then. She drank coffee but only about one cup a day as she still does. She didn't over do the sugar but we always had desserts at supper time. There was not much soda pop in our home except the occasional root beer float. Mom just naturally did all things in moderation even before Mormonism entered her life at age 43.
Maybe Susan B. just has droopy eye genes in her family made worse by tactless husband comments and undesirable retirement lifestyle.