Posted by:
motherwhoknows
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Date: October 29, 2011 08:24PM
You are not stupid--but I understand that "stupid" feeling, when you realize you believed their lies.
No, the cult and its members are not interested in the individual at all. What they care about is money, and their numbers.
"Friends" in the Mormon world, are people that you collect, convert, fellowship, so that you will appear popular with the other Mormons. Mormons really make a big fuss over someone who brings in new members. How many times do you hear, "Bring your friends and neighbors!" at meetings. I always felt stupid, that I didn't have friends I could manipulate or coerce into coming to church with me. I couldn't even make my own husband go to church. What an unpopular, friend-less failure I was.
It broke my heart, to find out the truth about Mormon friendships. When I left, I was quiet, and didn't speak out against the church, and I just stopped going. I did nothing to make them angry, yet I lost every one of my neighborhood Mormon friends. I kept a few childhood friends, and I've still on good terms with my TBM family.
Right now, is the worst you will ever go through. That recorded message of Mia's is our worst social nightmare! Yet, it is very real. This type of Mormon behavior is so common, that I can tell you that "IT ISN'T PERSONAL." This is just standardized, rude Mormon behavior.
The Mormons were very ugly and mean to me and my children, as we were leaving. It was this time of year--Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays--when they loved-bombed and harassed us so relentlessly, that we ended up hating Mormons. The bishop threatened me that the children and I would fail financially if we did not pay tithing. We were threatened that Satan would get hold of us. We were accused of things we would never do. We were good people, so they had to invent rumors to gossip about. I was maligned and accused in my own home, in front of my own children. My son and I stood up, and escorted the two priesthood holders to the door, Men came to my house late at night, in groups of two's and three's--even after the porch light had been turned off--and banged loudly, until I had to call through the door, "It is after 9:30, and I won't let strangers into the house." They would answer, "We're the Mormon missionaries/from the basketball team/Stake representatives," or whatever they were. I would repeat that I would not open my door to strangers.
I know the feeling of wanting to hide in the closet. It is one of those "aha! moments." I did almost the same thing, when I stayed home from the Primary Christmas party. For many good reasons, I just did not want to be with those people, so I turned off all the lights, and hid in the back room. When the doorbell rang, I thought, "Why am I so intimidated?"
You need to listen to your own heart, and your own gut reaction. If you knew the full extent of the Mormon lies, and how deep they go, and how far back into their history, you would understand why you don't feel quite yourself around these people. If you were to go to the temple, and through their rituals for the dead, you would understand that Mormons are creepy. I think you already know all of this.
Good luck on ending this unnecessary misery.