Posted by:
confusedinck
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Date: June 17, 2013 08:11AM
Something I was thinking about today...
When my now-husband and I were dating as teens (16&19), his family went insane and tried making us break up. They took DH's computer, phone, and car keys. They read our mail. They read his journal. They hacked all of his email accounts. Eventually, he left home and moved to my home town. Several months later, our district participated in an EFY activity day at Southern Virginia University. I went with a family in their van. DH's sister was there, too, and we ignored each other completely. My MIL came into the gym near the end, before picking up SIL. I was sick with anxiety, but I walked over to her and gave her my phone, with DH on the other line. I gave her a few minutes of privacy, since it had been about four months since DH had left home, with no word. When I was on my way home with the family I'd come with, the father asked, "Was that woman Devin's mother?" I said yes, and he was silent for a while. I could tell he was pissed. I waited, and he said, "She needs to get the Spirit with her."
Uh oh.
Apparently my MIL had spent the last twenty minutes of the concert telling the people standing next to her that she didnt think that EFY allowed "morally compromised youth" attend their functions. She even pointed me out, and told them that her son was "shacking up" with me, and that he couldn't serve a mission because of me.
I was in shock, because, while I already knew that she hated me and blamed me for how her son hated her, I didn't think she would actually try to spread rumors about me, so openly. And to MY ward! I let that bitch talk to her son, so she would know he was alright, and she couldn't just be happy to hear from him?
So my ward "family" took up for me, and when we were about to get married, my MIL called our bishop to ask him to not officiate at our wedding. He refused, and told her it would probably be best if she let it go. She refused, and he told us the next morning what she had said. He seemed disgusted that she refused to get substitutes for her primary class to come to our wedding. The bishop was so kind. That makes me happy, to know that some people in the church can look past "transgressions" and see two people trying to make it in the world. Of course, we don't speak now that we've left the church, but I'll never forget his kindness and generosity.
And it makes me realize that, no matter how cordial my MIL is with us now, she can never take back the shit she put DH and me through.
What a fucking piss poor mother.