The shoddy workmanship may have something to do with the fact that the Calgary temple wasn't fully completed by the time they did the public tours and dedicated it. There was a huge rush to finish, but they didn't quite make it. I went through the tour and they had to keep apologizing for the unfinished parts.
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Ugh, this is a favourite admonishment from my grandma. She loves to point out that she never tells anyone that she is proud of them, since pride is a sin. Instead she likes to say she is well pleased, just as God said whilst intro-ing Jesus in the 1st vision (or was it the 3rd or 4th? Lol.) Barf. No wonder my mom has such a low self esteem. It drives me nuts because it all comes down to seman
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Took the kids to the farmer's market, bought some coffee beans and a french press and just brewed my first cup on my own! Starbucks, you don't own me anymore, mwah-ha-haaa!
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God & Jesus. Even though moism isn't true, I still believed in Christianity. Newfound critical thinking skills got in the way of that. That's been a huge surprise to me.
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My stepdad gave me a gold CTR ring when I was 8 and I wore it well into my mid 20s. I finally figured out that he was a total sociopathic a$$hole, so it was a sick joke to have the words "choose the right" make me think of him. I stopped wearing it, and traded it in - cash for gold. If it has sentimental value, absolutely keep it. If not, melt away! Whatever new charm you make from
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I'm so very sorry that your dad is a such a %$%#, his abusive actions and attitude towards you make me so angry. I'm in Calgary so this is hitting close to home for me. I applaud your dedication to graduate school despite a tough home situation. Is there any friends or extended family you can live with for the next 2 months?
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LOL!
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Ugh, yes. Like I had any choice, the whole thing is geared to that end. On the last day it was a speshal spirichul production with lots of musical numbers and testimony sharing. It all culminated with a video presentation on Jesus with Heartsell music to invoke burnings in busoms. I silently sobbed my way through the video as I felt all my unworthiness and horror at myself for every sin I had eve
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My husband has been super low-key about our leaving TSCC. I sent him the link to the CES letter and verily I say he did gain a testimony of its truthfulness in as much as he did immediately commence to email it to his brother! He explained that the reasons outlined in the letter pretty much reflect his own experience. So his bro calls back that day (he lives far away) to tell my dh that he to
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I'll add mine as well. Last fall things were getting stressful. My husband's job was ending and we were worried for our future finances if it took him a while to get a new one. My mother in-law's cancer was making her quite sick and fragile. Then, the day after I informed my dh I would no longer be paying tithing he got a job interview, he also got a job offer, and his mother's cancer went int
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Congrats! My husband and I finally disposed of our g's the same way 2 weeks ago. We found out the church wasn't true 6 months ago (Book of Abraham issues).Please be assured, the "what if I'm wrong" feeling goes away. If you're anything like me, the more you study about TSCC, the faster it goes. Reading about the real history was like falling down the rabbit hole, I had no idea it went t
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I used to daydream about how I could happily live a normal life if the church wasn't true. I didn't have the facts yet, but I knew that things weren't adding up and something wasn't right. Now I'm living my dream :)
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I understand that this is a highly personal decision, and I leave that to you. I am in no position to give advice, but you have my sympathy. In response to the symptoms you are suffering from,it sounds like you may have Hyperemesis Gravidarum. I have it, it causes uncontrollable nausea and vomiting for the entire pregnancy, sort of like being allergic to being pregnant. I had to be on 2 medica
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That's awesome weeping willow! Enjoy the freedom of having control over your own body. I stopped wearing g's last summer and didn't make any announcements to my then still-TBM husby (he left shortly after me). I just went out and bought a bunch of normal cute underwear and started wearing it. He was a bit sad when he realized that I was never going to wear garmies again, but he certainly neve
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Edmonton, Alberta, Canada
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One of the best parts for me about leaving TSCC has been being open with my friends and family about supporting gay rights and marriage equality. I feel so grateful to finally be on the right side of history.
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I totally agree, I've been thinking about this a lot lately. I think that the members are true but the church is not. So many members are really trying to do their best and give their all to TSCC. It frustrates me to think of all that busy work of callings and going to the temple that could be better put towards something truly helpful and useful. Such a waste of good people.
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I'd say my husband. He would never have left if I hadn't lead the way. And I wouldn't have known how to do it without getting his defences up, if not for the amazing advice I got from RfM.
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Agreed, Toxic Parents is a great read, really helps sort things out and put them into perspective.
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Lucky!
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*EDIT - this is a reply to Nevermoaz* Not for me. I hated going through the interviews in order to get a recommend, so I it wasn't happiness I felt at being worthy, it was more relief that it was over. It was even better when they extended the recommends from one year to two, I had to endure renewing my tr less often. Of course, I always had to suffer the guilt of not enjoying the show at
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I felt exactly as you did. Over the years I asked many of my friends how they felt about their temple experiences. Realizing that 100% of them felt weird and awkward about all or parts of the temple experience helped me understand that we were all just playing a game of the Emperor's New Clothes.
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In some cases there is a link between gluten sensitivity/intolerance/allergy and depression. The reason is that 95% of seratonin production occurs in the gut. For those with sensitivities and/or Celiac Disease, gluten causes inflammation harms/destroys the lining of the digestive tract, preventing seratonin from being produced, thereby causing depression. The blogger Gluten Free Girl just wrote
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I just added my religion to my facebook profile as "Recovering from Mormonism". I've never put my religious beliefs on my profile before. Some of you RfM peeps are so brave with your status updates and your blogs! This is one small step for me, but it makes me feel a little more authentic, and a little more free :)
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I'm unfortunately from Raymond, and this is totally normal (for Raymond, not for real life, lol). Everyone is welcome to the gym reception...everyone knows each other, I guess. I always thought the gym receptions were tacky, so after my weirdo temple wedding, the reception was in my parents house. And the whole town showed up anyway, ha.
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Happier. I have my downswing days, but those are from coming to terms with lost money and choices after a lifetime of delusion from TSCC. The year before I left I felt like I wasn't living my true life and I knew I would be happier out, but I was too scared to risk walking away (what if I was wrong and it was true?). When I finally accepted that the church was NOT true it was as if I awoke f
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Yes
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I immediately sought out all of my friends who had previously left TSCC. Those friendships (and this site) have kept my sanity while I deprogrammed. Yoga has been very therapeutic for me as well. It is very grounding; allowing me to focus inward with acceptance has helped me let go of some of my unhealthy mormon perceptions. I'm ok just the way I am, I am enough. Who knew?
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Frak! LOL.
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Your musings remind me of the new Battle Star Gallactica (from 2004). I don't care if its illogical. I'm seriously jealous of their downloading skills.
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