Montreal is a pretty happening town. I've been there a lot of times.
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LOVE yoga!! I do a lot of restorative yoga, which I highly recommend if you can find it. I even got hubby hooked. He was going to eight classes a week for awhile. Do it for yourself, you'll love it. Oh, also Yin is fantastic if you can find it. Regular old Hatha isn't my favorite.
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I had my "Oh Shit" moment about two years before I left, but it took me a long time to make the final leap. I had a lot of stuff to sort out after years of digging to figure out any myriad of things. Plus, there was a pretty major element of anger about all the lies I was told mixed with panic of dealing with my remaining TBM family members and friends around the country. It was pretty
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After about four months of near panic attacks and extreme stress over leaving the Morg, the liberation set in today. It's fantastic. I thought I was going to have to wait so much longer. Too bad what pushed me into the liberation was lots of unrelated personal tragedy. I am totally happy about worshipping at my new church, the church of NPR and lattes.
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Our bishopric tried to get us to let the missionaries live with us about a year ago. We're in our early 30's, my husband is basically a non-member, and we're trying to conceive kids. I don't see how it could have been a good idea. I was really mad about it. I actually found it insulting and unreasonable. Can you imagine trying to go through fertility treatments with idiot 19-year-old boys living
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So I was just bouncing around the MSN homepage and found an article that listed the top 100 most charitable cities in the US. No cities in Utah even made the list. My city is in the top ten, and surrounding cities in my state occupy several spots on the list. Go figure. http://money.bundle.com/article/slideshow-charitable-cities/12
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Yeah, I liked him much better as my governor than as a presidential candidate. MA made him way more liberal than he really is. Although, based on his governorship, his presidential ideas seemed pretty off base as well. He is a skilled politician, we'll never see the real Mitt.
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This is so interesting. The History Channel has had shows that highlight some of this information, but never in this much detail. Also, The History Channel tends to go out in left field sometimes with their experts and theories. Thanks for posting it.
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Timothy, what do you think indoctrination means? It happens to parents and to children. And BTW, good anti-mormon information was not widely available until recently. Digital age, Baby.
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Not all TBM parents are terrible. Mine were awesome. My family and I are still very close. I told them my decision at 34. My dad took it well and understood, my mom had a hard time, but promised not to let it damage our relationship. Three of my sibs left before me, but they were young. I had done all the Temple stuff for more than a decade when I decided to bolt. I have two sibs left that are st
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Me, too. I left officially the last week in September and I finally threw out the huge pile of a decade of garments two weeks ago. About three days after I made my decision to leave, I took myself to Target and bought the prettiest underwear I have ever owned in my life. Bras too. I am way more comfortable and hubby is ecstatic. He hated my Mormon underwear. Next on my list is finding replacement
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Thanks, Annagrammy. I really appreciated everyone's support. Especially yours, Shannon's, and everyone who had been through it before me. It's been a rough couple of weeks for me. Grief is awful no matter how you slice it, but very necessary. About your original comment, you're a smart lady. You kind of had me a little figured out. I must confess I studied clinical psychology at the graduate l
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I left New England a few years ago and headed south. I did commuter rail for a long time. I worked in Back Bay for several years. The train ride was just as bad as carpool in terms of time. I don't miss it at all. Boston I miss, commutes and winter. Nope.
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I used to live in Lawrence. You're making me a little homesick. I carpooled out of Chelmsford into the city. Good luck.
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Hubby and I just finished round one of IVF. Unsuccessfully. I took a break from the board until I got the bad news, because I needed to be in a good mental space for the IVF process. Leaving the Morg a month before we started the process was just piss poor timing. Thanks, Universe!! The thing is, when you are dealing with fertility issues in the Morg, the shear volume of 19-yr-olds pregnant wi
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Main stream LDS does practice polygamy, just not in the way people think. A "worthy" man can be sealed to multiple women in a mainstream Temple, provided there is only one living at a time. It has always, and I mean ALWAYS, creeped me out. The mainstream LDS women can only be sealed to one man at a time, by which I mean a Temple divorce can free you up to seal yourself to someone else.
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I wanna start a support group. I just emailed Susie.
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I have to say, if there is one great thing the LDS church did for me, it was "Johnny Lingo". Those BYU morality plays on film were generally pretty terrible, but oh so entertaining. A few years ago, I bought all my ex-mo sibs copies of the official "Johhny Lingo" movies, which also had "Uncle Ben" and "The Mailbox". We still quote all the movies and the
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It's obscure, but here you go: "So the Gods went down to organize man in their own image, in the image of the Gods to form they him, male and female to form they them." Abraham 4:27 I always interpreted the scripture to mean that humans were created by committee and that the committee/Gods duplicated themselves, being male and female, thus Gods and Goddesses. You can take from
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The second to last time I went (about eight months ago), the veil worker who was doing the ordinance work with me had clearly not been washing his hands after using the men's room, probably all day. His hand smelled so bad (and that is a very distinct stink) I almost puked. I'm so short that his hand was always less than a foot from my nose. I'm gagging just thinking about it. I never told anyone
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This doesn't surprise me. There is still some anti-Mormon hysteria amongst some of the local Southern preachers.
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It's been years since I've even been to Sugar House. There was a place across the street from the movies in the mid-90s that was good, but that was 15+ years ago. I second what a lot of these folks have said, start with the flavored stuff because coffee on it's own is very bitter. And cheap, diner-type coffee tends to be nasty. Starbucks pumpkin spice latte is fantastic. When I finally left a few
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So creepy!!
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You do know that they are made to feel really guilty if they don't get you back to activity and that they are made to feel inferior if they don't put an enormous amount of effort into doing so. The last time I sat through RS, it was the VT conference and one lady raised her hand to ask what more she could do if the person was unresponsive to her efforts. At least ten people raised their hands wit
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This makes sense to me. The thing about my situation is that after a lifetime of setting all the things aside that didn't add up for me, it was the country's political climate over the last two years that forced me to finally confront all those issues. Once I did that, everything unraveled very quickly and I spent the better part of two years trying to put it all back together, which is not possi
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They are all repeating a pattern, except for Janelle (I have no sane explanation for that). We all repeated a pattern, too. Then we decided not to repeat it anymore. I think it really is that simple. Occam's razor.
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Many of the wards I have been in, this was somewhat true. But the ward I just left is massive and full of highly educated young adults who have pretty blonde post-card families. I would say the hideous people were very much in the minority in that ward. So, I guess I'm saying it depends.
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Oprah doesn't grasp the nuances of the religion or the Utah culture. I tune into 'Sister Wives' because it's like watching the car wreck of our over arching Mormon culture. Today on Oprah, I kept watching the tell-tale fake smiles of a "happy home", while the more subtle body language told a different story. Meri kind of seems like she's starting to crack a bit. Talk about cognitive
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I wish. I was instructed to cut the symbols out or burn them. I am planning to have a bonfire of the my Mormon laundry as part of my healing process. I have a decade of my life sitting in a pile in my bedroom right now, taunting me. At least it's fall and I can enjoy such a fire. Do you think the Temple matron would find it irreverent to roast marshmallows over my burning Gs?
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My family has been very supportive. I make number four of six kids to leave so far. My other sibs had a decade head start. My mom is struggling with it, but my one sister who has been the most Molly Mormon her whole life has been very open minded and supportive. I consider myself lucky that my family is so awesome and that my parents quietly led progressive lives with us. I hope your whole family
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