Although I don't come here any more but on the rare occasion, I feel I would be remiss if I didn't offer my thanks for helping when I needed it. Without Rfm my leaving the cult would have been terrifying. Thanks for this resource. Now, go have fun.
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I wore the bottoms for a while because mine were comfortable. I just took a seam ripper to the symbol and removed it. After that, I burned them. Fire! Yeah!
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I started keeping a journal when I converted at 15, and I've been doing it ever since. To this day, I use it as a reference for events in my life. I can read old entries and relive wonderful moments, see how much I've changed/grown, remember getting through horrible times in my life, not to mention jobs, family memories, etc. Keeping a journal was the one thing I'm glad I kept after I left. As
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I watched as a sister missionary learned of this for the first time. She was devastated. If losing your faith has a facial expression, I saw it. I wonder if she ever left.
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I remember feeling some pressure at the time, but I think the branch president recognized my family didn't have the money. But boy oh boy did they pressure me even more to do a stake mission later on. I was near tears from the pressure.
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My partner and I will be watching something on the tv and I'll say, "They're Mormons." He always ask how I know and the answer is always the same: Mormons have a look, especially ones from the western states.
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I needed to read this today.
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Well, most job seekers aren't just applying for one job. Some may be applying for many a day. I've been through the job seeking process recently. Every single company wants you to take an online assessment. First you upload your resume. Then you have to edit or fill out an application anyway. And then you have to take a test. Do that a few times a day and it does get annoyingly time consuming, an
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It took many, many years to get rid of the guilt. Every so often I'll feel guilty for something and I can't think where it's coming from until the light bulb in my brain comes on. Wish I had advice. Time away was the only thing that helped me. That and challenging my thoughts, realizing that most of them were wrong and influenced by the morg. Once I started talking myself into a new way of th
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After seventeen years out, I'm still trying to find the answer to this question.
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I'm going to be the odd duck here and admit I loved it. Got my endowments in the late 90s at the DC temple which was a few hour drive for me. So when I moved to Utah for a while, I took every chance I could get to go. I mean, back east, you don't have a temple on every street corner, so why not take advantage, nawmean? It was such a drug. The buzz wore off, though, and I left the cult a fe
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What if she broke her leg? Wouldn't you want her to get fixed up good and right? Get her to a vet.
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This right here!!!
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Zing!
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'An it harm none, do what you will.
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I was a golden convert. Convert at 15, stayed in the church for over 16 years, many callings, active temple goer. And then I became a golden apostate.
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Not sure how old you are, but the first thing that came to mind was to go to school somewhere. Live in a dorm, rent a house/apartment, whatever. It would fix two problems.
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I never believed I was brainwashed until long after I left. People, especially my exhusband, kept telling me I was and it was all a sham, but I didn't listen. I used to think they were the ones who were brainwashed. Heh. Yeah.
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I believe 2001. It made me feel I wasn't alone.
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I remember him. Yeah, he was a d*ck.
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Yeah, this.
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It was the style a few years ago, not sure if it still is.
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Deny my tithe paying brother some emergency assistance when he needed it most and then call our father to ask him why he wasn't helping his adult kid out.
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Irony.
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Exactly.
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I had to quit drinking this healthy drink because it was ripping my gut apart. Tea, too. I only miss the tea.
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I've been out for over fifteen years and still get those urges. It passes.
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I'm sorry for your loss.
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I'm so sorry.
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Yep, I believed it. Oddly, I was just thinking about this the other day. I've lost hope, innocence, the ability to believe. I'm not bitter, just really, really sad about that. It hasn't ruined all of me, but it has made it difficult in some areas. Even after all this time of being out, I still haven't come to terms with it.
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