Freevolved Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- >"And in general, when people devote a lot of energy or money or expense to something, they are extraordinarily resistant to having it proven wrong." That's the Mormon church in a nutshell. Great article. Thanks for posting it.
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I agree with Steven, it can take a lot of time and patience to find the right drug or combination of drugs in order to help a child. I've had anxiety attacks, and I know how debilitating they can be. I felt like I was having a heart attack, and that I would possibly pass out while driving on the highway. I felt very short of breath and light-headed. Do you know if there is something about
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I'm glad that things are working out for you. It sounds like you're having a blast at school. Isn't freedom sweet?
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...was next-gen from that one, a 486. I think my brother paid about $3,500 for it new, and I got it from him at the tail-end of its lifespan, maybe around '98 or '99. Looking back, it seems pitiful in comparison to current computers, but to me, it was heavenly. For the first time, I had internet access in my home. I had done all of my graduate program papers on that computer, and it represent
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Dishes are dealt with immediately after each meal or snack by whomever ate that meal or snack. They get rinsed and go into the dishwasher or get washed, dried, and put away. "No dishes in the sink." This would require the cooperation of everyone in the family. It sounds like it's not just your problem, but a family problem. I would bring this up with your parents. And if other sibli
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Just dream about the day that all of the church nonsense will be in your rear-view mirror.
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Are their expectations for chores unpredictable? As a teacher of urban kids, I often encounter a lot of yelling. Here are some responses that I use (with everything said in a very calm voice): "Why are you yelling? Just talk to me (in a normal tone of voice) about what's upsetting you." "Why are you yelling? I can hear you just fine." "I'm not yelling at you,
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What exactly do they expect from you in terms of chores? Do you have set chores or a set schedule? IMO parents have a right to expect some chores from children as contributing members of the family. An older teen might be expected to do his/her own laundry, keep his or her bedroom and bathroom clean, pack a lunch, cook an occasional meal, and perhaps help with dishes, garbage, yardwork, etc.
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Where is that link now (with the new board?) For some reason, I can't find it.
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TSCC = the so-called church TBM = true blue Mormon, true-believing Mormon
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...who is a lawyer or accountant could draft a sample letter for us. I'm not sure about what the minimum amount should be where the books should be open and/or auditing expected. I wouldn't want to punish or overburden small, local charitable organizations.
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...to our representatives in Congress. Demand that the books be opened for all charitable organizations, including churches, that receive more than x dollars per year in tax-deductable donations. Budgets should be published on the web for all to peruse, and audited if there is a certain dollar amount involved. I think that this is the minimum that citizens can expect for exempting organizatio
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I was not childless by choice, more by happenstance. It can be very tough being an older, single, childless woman. Did I say very tough? :-/ But I did make my peace with it some years ago. Yet as you point out, there are compensations. For me it has been travel, trinkets, and a constant diet of PG-13 and R-rated movies at the movie theater. My friends and aquaintences are too polite to say a
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College is a great time to start figuring out how you want to live your own, independent, adult life. You may have to attend church on your trips home, but most of the time you will be able to do as you please. You will find lots of other students who are going inactive from the religion or denomination of their births and/or exploring new philosophies or religious choices. I think that you will
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...wherever you have a cold, snowy climate or a lot of traffic. The underground system of tunnels and shops in Montreal is one such example. One of my employers in Manhattan had an underground tunnel to a storeroom located off-site. I always found it fascinating. I had to warn clients that I would be gone for 15-20 min. while traveling to and from the storeroom.
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Heresy Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- ...and the devil has taken hold of you. I attended mainstream Christian churches for many years. I honestly don't remember hearing about the devil much at all (although I'm sure he comes up often in the more fundie Christian groups.) It was maybe just a handful of times, and even then it was in reference to Jesus's temptat
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The word part "anti-" is symptomatic of black/white, tribal thinking. If you're not one of us, you're an enemy. You couldn't possibly be a member of another friendly tribe. This is a huge cog-dis within the Mormon faith. Outsiders are both feared and courted (through missionary efforts) at the same time. It reeks of insecurity.
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Cheryl Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Tattlers who follow the rules don't internalize them but only give them lip service and do it to get attention or to undermine in legitmate value of their peers. Right, it's an ego-building activity. They tell on others to build themselves up *by* tearing others down. In a church context, it's not exactly condusi
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I took many courses in Asian art and philosophy while in college. Professors of Asian art history understand the philosophy behind the artworks really well. One professor taught us how Chinese paintings showing the majesty of mountains, forests, and streams, with perhaps a lone human traveller looking like a pinpoint in relation, were Taoist in nature. See a typical Taoist artwork here. Yo
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I am interested in learning yoga. Thanks for your thoughtful analysis of its benefits, both physical and mental/spiritual.
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Cheryl Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Almost every classroom seems to have an obsessive tattler. This is a child who comes to school thinking its his or her job to team up with the teacher and help run the classroom to see to it that fellow students follow the rules. > > Why is this a problem? It means the tattler is incapable of normal bonding.
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But you would think that she'd have figured this out before they got as far along as marriage plans.
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Best wishes to you, Amy. Enjoy your wedding day!
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Another thought is nail polish remover/acetone. Teachers use this to remove permanent marker from various surfaces, but I've never tried it on clothing. You might want to test each potential remover on a scrap of similar fabric.
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I hope that your nephew and his wife have a great time! That would be a dream trip for me. The SI swimsuit issue is sooooo harmless. Nothing that you wouldn't see on a beach somewhere in the world. Prudishness does not equal moral virtue.
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IMO it's important for the sake of your mental health that you address this. I would be very firm with her. Tell her that she is to cut it OUT. Even if that's what she thinks, she is to keep that thought to herself. Because no one, even if unhappy, wants to hear that message every day. If she doesn't get the message, either hand it right back to her ("Mom, the only one around here wh
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I like her as well.
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As a public school teacher, I often take a moment or two to silently pray for patience. ;-) But the Supreme Court has held that organized, vocal prayer violates the establishment clause of the First Amendment (Engle v. Vitale, 1962,) and also the Fourteenth Amendment (Schempp V. School District of Abington Township, 1963, and Murray v. Curlett, 1963.) The opinion emphasized that government mus
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