I might be completely wrong here but I don't think your son should be carrying much of the blame. You say the dad, skipped out of/broke up the family for a few years and of course son has a lot of anger about that. That makes sense and I think that's normal and healthy.
What's unhealthy, imo, is dad not wanting to deal with it by not wanting to get therapy, not wanting to take appropriate cop
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