Posted by:
Goldros
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Date: July 31, 2018 09:38PM
I'm a byu grad. Unfortunately.
I'd definitely say that the entire BYU culture is very much all about looks. I always thought that campus was full of blonde, long hair, heavy makeup, nice clothes - type of girls. This was the ultimate BYU look. Funny, I'm blonde, tall, long hair, I like makeup and nice clothes, so I should shut up about it, right :). Boys were in most cases very unattractive to me. BYU boys have this annoying byu haircut that just screams "good RM, future bishop" to me. And don't forget the "turtle neck" type of garments they would wear, so all the girls know that he served a mission!!
And these boys and girls were in two different clubs - married and single. Married students were on their own. Seriously, they were the worst group team mates. Always full of excuses and acting like their busy married life had some sort of priority. They'd say sh*t such as "you'll understand when you get married, omg married life is the best, idk how it feels to be single anymore, I couldn't do it." Annoying as hell. They thought they won the lottery because they were married.Single students were annoying in a different way. In a nutshell, everything was about finding their spouse.
I regret going to BYU so much. Seriously. I know it sounds silly, but I'm sad I never had "the wild college experience." I never had crazy drunk summer break as a college student. I don't have any super memorable, epic college experience. Most of it was focused on schooling and being a good Mormon.
College should be about making memories, friends, spontaneous fun, self-discovery. Not about finding your spouse your first year and graduating with two kids. I'm very happy I never got married while at BYU. I can't imagine that.
Now what you mentioned at the end is very interesting - I work in NYC and we have a big branch in SLC. Two months ago we had a new SLC employee here for training. When he found out i went to BYU, he was happy we could form a little mormon group. He said that he wants to network with mormons and make good connections especially in SLC. I told him that in order to succeed, he needs to get out of his mormon world and network with everyone. Nobody important in SLC is mormon. That scared the shiz out of him. BYU graduates are book smart, but they're not ready to work in a world, where we accept and support LGBTQ, drink coffee, women are your bosses and non-mormons are happy.