I got a good chuckle from the article. A human tendency is to paint a group of people with a broad brush. That is what the author of the article did. It took me a decade of being out to try alcohol and alcohol really doesn’t float my boat anyway. It also took a decade to try coffee! Sugar and creamer use goes down as I discovered that I really love the actual taste of coffee! I like readin
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I had the exact same experience as PooPooHead! The whole church experience is exhausting! And not having a 9 to 5, weekends off job makes trying to be a good Mormon even worse! I am so glad to be out!
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In a nutshell, became burned out, then became tired of feeling guilty for being burned out, decided to take control of my life, quit ALL of my church jobs, became inactive, started seriously studying Mormonism and came to the realization that the temple ceremony is based on the Mason's ceremonies. That was it for me! And really only the beginning of all the lies and misinformation from tscc I ha
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Early in my teenage years, I began to realize the hollowness of life as a member of the church. Prayers, sacrament meeting, Sunday school were just endless repetitions. There was really nothing there. It is no wonder that crazy Mormon folklore were whispered in the hallways, it livened things up! It is not until you step away from Mormonism that you can see the souless organization that it is.
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The VT/HT program has always bothered me and was such a source of guilt for not doing it and not liking it. It is just forced/fake friendship. I can't believe tscc hangs on to this out dated, ineffective program.
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On my mission, many moons ago, I was faced with what I considered at the time, 'anti-mormons', (they were really just a group of christians trying to help a new member come to their senses and leave moronism). The experience of facing the real truth about Mormonism left me speechless and I was reduced to repeating my testimony over and over.... I know this church is true.... I am so embarrassed
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As a TBM, I never thought of that song as racists. But yes, it is subtle and can be offensive to Native Americans.
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Hello to all. I appreciate this opportunity to tell my story. I was raised in a small SE Idaho town, BIC, seminary, mission, temple marriage, elder’s quorum presidency, home teacher, financial clerk, primary teacher, three kids and now grandkids. After my mission my faith was unshakeable. I was never really over-the-top crazy mormon but tried to do the best I could to be a model mormon a
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My mother is in her eighties and is TBM. On a visit home a few years back, I decided to get my mission slides, yes slides, out of my DM's basement and take them home. We started looking at them and it brought back memories and I started telling my DM about the experiences I did NOT write home about, one crazy P-Day trip in particular. I could see the look of disappointment wash across her face. W
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I have often thought about going back but being a tourist would be very different than a missionary. As a missionary I went anywhere that was needed and was very lucky that I did not get beat up. Only once was my companion and I in a fight. I never did tell my DM about that special experience... Ha ha
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I was in the PI 77-79, yup, a long time ago. It was only one mission when I first arrived then spilt into two or three just before I went home. It was english speaking at the time so I only learned a few words and phrases in tagalog and pampangan. I was in the Metro Manila area for most of my mission but had 6 months in Guagua. For the most part the people were good but people are people no mat
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Just when I thought I had heard it all! Sportsman gees! Thanks for this thread, you really got me laughing!
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Oh yes I remember the nylon one piece, I did not have any but the newer missionaries did. I also remember one guy had a pair of one piecers with a ZIPPER in the front! He called that his 'honeymooners'! Yikes! What crazy days...
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I just had a flashback of my mission in the PI, 77-79. It was so hot and humid that when you set foot in the apartment you took off the polyester pants, white shirt (stained black on the back from jeepney rides) and tie. The all cotton gees were the worst, followed up with the cotton poly blend. Gag!
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Gramps actually helped me on my way out! I was still struggling with getting my nagging church questions answered and thought it would be a safe place to ask a sincere question. I was wrong and only a received a superficial, sneering answer! Thanks Gramps!
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I apologize for making a broad statement that religions are all the same. A better statement would be that 'some' religions seek power and control over their people. And my point is that I personally am, at this point in my recovery, very disillusioned with religions generally. I have little interest in finding a replacement for TSCC I left behind.
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I work Sundays and during my morning commute there is nothing on the radio except the local Christian station so I tune in for curiosity sake. I can now recognize the same type of mind control that is used in TSCC with the preacher I heard on the radio. So sad. When I was first really out of TSCC I thought about trying a Christian church but now I realize religions are pretty much the same. Prea
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In the temples that still have the 'actors', the script is on cards that are handed out each shift and then inventoried at the end of the shift and placed under lock and key. If cards are missing, temple presidents are not pleased and will go to great lengths to locate and secure the missing cards.
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Still evolving but for now agnostic.
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I have been inactive since 98' and have slowly studied my way out of TSCC. I still have pangs of guilt as I try to live a normal life. It is even harder when my DM knows of my disobedience and leaving the church. My DW has also quit the TSCC and being on the same page has really helped. I still have to correct myself on some mormon thinking in my day to day life. It is better to be out of mo
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Hey, I have to be gluten free because of Celiac (diagnosed in 2001, before it was cool) and I really try not to be annoying or overboard with it. My Mom's wheat bread made with her own dear hands did not do me much good when I was young!
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As an eighteen year old, getting ready for a mission, I was scared to death that I would be called to a state side mission, that I would have to face people who knew the bible well, like in the south. I think I knew deep down TSCC is a house of cards..
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One thing I like about RfM is that there are people here who have similar experiences of having to deal with TBM friends and family after the confessions of disbelief occur. I have to keep coming back to RfM just to gain strength from everyones experiences and commitments to telling the truth about TSCC. I have been inactive for many years, I became burned out and quit going to church. Only th
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In Idaho Falls there was a LDS Hospital and the temple together then in the 80's the hospital was torn down and replaced with a stake center.
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'There is no room for messiness is Mormonism. The thing that makes it tolerable for those that require order and answers makes it intolerable for those experiencing the messiness of a genuine, authentic life.' Excellent topic and quote. I have had such a hard time dealing with the guilt of not having perfect children. Since I went inactive and my children are also inactive and not 'saintly', I
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Back in the early eighties in S. California, I was a second councilor in the elders quorum. The stake leadership at that time was apparently tired of in-actives pulling down the numbers so the elders quorum presidency was tasked with seeking out in-actives and asking if they wanted to be members or not. This was a very difficult task and was met with various reactions by the in-actives we approac
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Heaven's no! Just do not look in my garage....
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I lived in L.A. area for about 3 years after I was married and found California Mormons a lot more fun and interesting.... It was a hoot coming from Idaho to California, not as wound up.... But that was 30 years ago...
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This situation has happened to me also but as time has progressed it has gotten better. Coming to this website helps me gain my footing when Mormon implanted behaviors pop up.... It has really helped to be able to come here and see similar situations and be able to start laughing about it and discuss similar problems...
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I always have to come back.....
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