Thanks for sharing these stories, I think it's very healing to be able to voice our opinions and tell about the things we went through in this religion. I remember the first time in my life when I was able to start seeing the sexism I'd endured most my life up to that point. Oddly it happened while at BYU. I had gone out to a show in Salt Lake with a couple of male friends. They had drive
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Going on a hike!
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Oh I'd like to see that!! Yes do tell more! I had an art exhibit displayed in the HVAC building on campus in like 1993 or 94 and it became quite the controversy. I had photographed dolls in a very creepy way in order to try and capture dreams I had of dolls was I was a child and very afraid of them. I explained this in the artist's statement. Well I left a 'comment book' out for people to
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That's so terrible. Good for her for speaking out, but how awful that they would question her 'conduct' at all, trying to blame the (female) victim! When I was at the Y, the hill at the south part of campus that I had to climb up daily to get to classes, was actually nicknamed 'Rape Hill' there were that many incidents of assaults there! While a student I noticed how young male students to
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Thanks everyone! I feel very supported here. Nothing like sharing with others who can really relate. Thanks also for sharing back with me! And for the encouragement! Yes to Onward! :)
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I have to agree with the 'anti-vaccine' side of things even though I don't think we should be placing people in camps like this and making things so black and white (Something we were trained to do as Mormons). But from the research I have done and my own personal experience and having nephews that have Autism and have clearly been vaccine injured I think there is compelling evidence that mos
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AHHHHH AHHHHHH AHHHHHHH!!! YES! It's a HUGE problem for me as well. Thanks for bringing this up. I really struggle with this. If I am not 100 percent successful in whatever project I start I really get down on myself. For that reason I start a lot of things and don't finish. If I start to think it isn't going to be a success then I lose interest, I think I am 'wasting my time' if I'm n
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AND we should remember this religion as well as most others in practice today that I can think of were invented by MEN, NOT by women. The men invented them and the men are in charge of them, period. It was never the idea of the women. Women went along with it, go along with it still, either because they had no other choice, no other means to support themselves (and their children, it seems it ser
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Just have to add to the comment about sex being what 'men want most'.. I think that is a poor generalization. There are firstly a lot of women who feel that way, but are told it's wrong to feel that way, not just by the Mormon church but by society in general. If we want sex and like it and are open about that we are seen as 'loose women' as 'whores'.. but a man is a 'stud'.. But also I know a lo
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I love the Mountain Meadows Gun and Ammo shop one, esp. with the Native war paint costume shop next door. LOL I have been noticing lately how much Mormons and Muslims actually have in common. (I shouldn't say 'Muslims' as much as 'Islamist extremists') Promises of an afterlife with harems and glory for their sacrifice here on earth. Esp. in the early days of Mormon blood atonement sacrific
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Ha ha. Yes I should have used paint, but wasn't quite that rebellious (yet)! I never saw a news article about it. If I had I would have kept it! But maybe? I wouldn't have gotten anything from Salt Lake while in Provo so it's possible I missed it. Yes I am sure those who knew about it would have been just utterly shocked and offended. Such a terrible 'sin'.. and yes at the 'Lord's Univers
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LOL! Firstly there was no bustier, so that means 'Obbie1958' you are 'busted!' Ha! And Serge, OMG! How funny! (and OMG is your name actually Serge because I knew one while at BYU!!! Did you know the 'blue house girls' and were you involved with the Student Review and that whole group??) Well at the time honestly we weren't angry, just having a bit of irreverent fun. We weren't even trying
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And thanks for the welcome Gatorman!
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Thanks for sharing your perspective on PTSD. It's helpful to hear it described that way (slow mo rape, pretty accurate!). I wonder about the leaders too and feel similarly. Talk about inconsistencies, there sure are a lot of them! I mean the whole view of God as both having 'unconditional love' and then being 'vengeful, angry' and needing sacrifices to him, and 'blood atonements' of c
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Okay so I am here to confess. I was the one to leave my bra on top of Brigham Young's head on the BYU campus in 1992. Well actually I had two accomplices. We wore all black and snuck onto campus (giggling madly) in the middle of the night armed with piles of lingerie. We thought it would be fun to cover Brigham Young in our sexy lingerie. We also attacked a couple of other statues nearby.
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Once when I was still attending, many many years ago, and went to church while staying at my family's house post college. I got so mad at how a man could just drop into our women's Relief Society meetings any old time and listen in. In fact they made a habit of checking on us, making sure we were doing what they tell us to do (since, at least then, they wrote all of the material for our lesso
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I realize I left out a key detail and that is that in 2003 I officially resigned from the LDS church. I didn't know previous to that date (when I found 'mormonnomore.org' ) that it was something I could do. For me it was important. Some of my good friends who also left (esp. a couple of my childhood friends) didn't do the same as they didn't feel the need. But I didn't want the church to use me a
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LOL, yes he is! :)
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Thanks for the responses! I realize I left out a key detail and that is that in 2003 I officially resigned from the LDS church. I didn't know previous to that date (when I found 'mormonnomore.org' ) that it was something I could do. For me it was important. Some of my good friends who also left (esp. a couple of my childhood friends) didn't do the same as they didn't feel the need. But I didn't w
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Thanks for the responses! I realize I left out a key detail and that is that in 2003 I officially resigned from the LDS church. I didn't know previous to that date (when I found 'mormonnomore.org' ) that it was something I could do. For me it was important. Some of my good friends who also left (esp. a couple of my childhood friends) didn't do the same as they didn't feel the need. But I didn't w
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I am so glad I found this site, thank you to the wonderful people who put this together! I am a 44 year old female ex-Mormon. I left at age 22-23 after attending BYU and seeing the Mormon church up close and personal. I was raised in Maryland as one of maybe 10 other Mormons in our high school of 4000 students. Being a minority my whole life strengthened my convictions and Mormon identity, as I w
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I am so glad I found this site, thank you to the wonderful people who put this together! I am a 44 year old female ex-Mormon. I left at age 22-23 after attending BYU and seeing the Mormon church up close and personal. I was raised in Maryland as one of maybe 10 other Mormons in our high school of 4000 students. Being a minority my whole life strengthened my convictions and Mormon identity, as I w
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