The point is full disclosure needs to be made. There are laws about schools & charities. Eagle Scout or UNICEF parents/caregivers need ALL the information first. And really if it is some kids Eagle Scout project great, but there have been many a fraud committed in the name of "charity" INCLUDING individual church members. Snap a few photos, show the fliers, and shoes end up in the d
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I am with Susan on this one. Call the principal and get more information. The flyer doesn't have enough info and it's possible it's some kids Eagle Scout project cleaverly worded to sound like another charity. It's fully possible the teacher/classroom aide/whoever is just doing this on their own without prior approval.
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Stupid me. After months of not answering the door for RS/HT morgbots, I've been on ignore from them for the last 2-3 months. No fliers or visits. It's been great. Having told them previously I was not interested, spouse telling them we are not interested, on top of refusing to answer the door I thought it all finally sank in. Save the paper, save the ink, save the time, skip my house. Apparently
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That's great! Give her space- don't push, don't prod, don't ask. Basically just let her come to you. If you start hounding her about it now she will resist and shut down totally. Be there when she needs you, answer questions if she asks them, but above all else just be supportive and loving. If she decides to ignore what she has read then leave it alone. Eventually those truths will start to eat
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Arm rubbing? The only thing I ever saw was nearly every man passed out with his forehead on the pew in front and his wife tickling his back.
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Find someone else. It hurts but seriously you will look back now and thank yourself. 20 is very, very, very young. There is no reason you need to settle down or wait for someone. Keep going and enjoy your life. If it's meant to be, it will be but don't join a cult just to keep a cute boy around.
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I can relate to this post completely, I am in the same situation as well. I love my spouse as a person but dislike them totally. We have 2 young children together and had it not been for pressures of the church I would have found a man who actually made me happy. I'm trying my best to make the situtation work given there are children involved but I don't know how much longer I can keep going. DH
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ROFL I just spit water on my keyboard! Needed this today, thanks RJ!!
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I second Puritan's Pride! They've always been great quality with awesome deals. If you don't already make sure you are shopping through Ebates and checking online coupon codes through places like retailmenot or dealio to help get the best savings.
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I don't think OP is saying he wants to go back, I think he's just saying that life really sucks right now and when you've been in the Morg for so long every once in awhile that programming pops it's ugly head up. Kinda like AOL months after you thought you got rid of everything they left on your PC. BL-yeah, sometimes. Every once in awhile I attend a family function and remember what it was lik
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So either you make really cute babies, are incredible in bed, or she's crazy. Well, ex the last option we all already know she's nuts. Glad you're avoiding another mess! :)
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I will be as open as possible when it comes to sex, drugs, etc. Information is key and the more they have the less likely they will make bad decisions. Should my kids decide to have pre-marital sex while younger (of course I'd rather they wait a bit but it's their body, their choice and I want them to come to me) I plan on birth control that is implanted or shot form in addition to condoms for ST
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*I live in Morridor. Here's how it is here- Having a wedding party is one of the pathetic ways younger couples try to put on the apperance of a "normal" wedding. Just like buying the fancy gown that gets covered in ugly polyester crap. For an LDS wedding & reception the bridal party stands outside waiting (those who have reccomends usually go in to witness the sealing) to do pictur
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I checked out that board once. I lost a few brain cells in the process. It's amazing how many self righteous, ill informed women can converge together in a cesspool of Mormon hypocrisy. Oh wait, I forgot about Relief Society....
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Quit living your life in fear! If they find out, they find out. This is about you. Not them. Sure, they may find out then again they might not. If you want to resign for you then do it for you. Don't twiddle around holding your breath for fear of losing their approval. If they truly love you then they will deal. Good Luck with your decision.
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It's more likely your wifes issues are also church related. Trying to live up to the perfect TBM housewife standard is exhausting when you have no rum & Coke to help you along the way. Or at least coffee. Or something. No instead she is surrounded by propoganda that says she should be 100% perfect 100% of the time because her whole family depends on her physically & mentally and should sh
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When I saw Role Playing in the title I totally thought this was going down a different avenue...one where garments boldly go where only kinky closet members have gone before....
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Given that you are dependant upon them and living in their home I would not write back an email full of facts to dispute it, I would just write something kind back along the lines of "Thanks Mom for sending this along, I'll read it and think about it." It's a nice answer that is also a truthful answer. You've read the email and you will think about it. At some point in the future when y
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99% of those kids getting sealed in the temple lied to get there. Pure and simple. The fear of being shunned and judged by the family & community are what leads onto the chaste apperance. They are terrified of the consequences should anyone find out. By church standards anything more than hand holding is pretty much out. Even extended kissing is advised against. I was married prior the temple
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The last few weeks have been very stressful for me. For some weird reason this article made my day. Is that so wrong?
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Until someone can prove otherwise I'm calling BS. I think the account was made by someone else or something. Most Mo's wouldn't shoot a music video in a Mexican Brothel. Then again...
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I was raised in UT and never experienced this kind of crazy. Most kids I knew that were seriously mis-behaved weren't from Mormon households. I always see these posts here and wonder what part of Utah is this?! Utah County? But then again I am the kind of parent who would never take my small child, no matter how well behaved, into a high end store like Tiffany's. Expensive shiny things + little c
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Haven't commented on your other threads but wanted to give my best wishes for you! Hope your feeling well again soon!
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I didn't watch. Not one nano-second. I spent the day with *gasp* my family! Doing fun things! And I even drank a beer! DK I do think you make a good point-even as a TBM I wondered why the church didn't have an online system set up so that everyone could just pay their tithing and other contributions straight to headquarters and save everyone so much time. Then I left and of course I came to re
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I'm not sure how other temples work but the one I went to required appointments to make sure there would be time for *certain dates*. The temple doesn't have enough to do ever but the Manti temple is one of the more popular temples and is only the second offering a live session so it fills up quickly with kids who want to get sealed on dates like 11/11/11 or 12/12/12 along with holidays or other
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I'd also like to say Thank You for staying open, many will need it. Thanks for all you guys do!
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Count me in on the TED talks! I'm glad others enjoy them as well. I always have my DVR set to record them.
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<insert puke face> GMAFB! "We just built a $5 billion dollar mall and we know you were all soooo worried there wouldn't be enough funds for our dear Profit's private jet or security- But not to worry brethren, all is well...."
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I think Joesph did it for more reasons than their being unhappy with his behaviour. I think he also did it to create a structure where he would be on top, as the only founder, with complete control. I think it was also an insurance plan of sorts to ensure that any leaks of his dirty personal or business dealings looked like ramblings from an unhappy ex-member. No matter his thinking it worked.
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It sounds like your emotional state of things might be fueling his desire to become Muslim even more. It's his life and his choice, all you can do is help him make an INFORMED decision. Don't discourage or encourage. Just be there for him. I agree with the poster who said that he could just be wanting to join a group of people bigger than himself. I linked a fully written, indexed paper over in y
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