Thank you very much, Woodsmoke. That is exactly what I meant.
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Thank you. :)
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We have set certain boundaries through the years, though it hasn't always been easy. We don't like to stay the night with them anymore, because it felt like we were under their control, and not just guests. We made the difficult decision a few weeks ago to no longer visit them in their home. At least until or if things are resolved, for real. We haven't told them this in a blunt way, but we say s
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Man, that is AWFUL! I've noticed a lot of this behavior from parents in the church. They set their daughters up for being super young when they get married, but when it happens, they aren't ready, and choose to blame her instead of themselves.
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She promised that we would be divorced within a year. We've been married five years this November. :)
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She is only the least bit cordial because she wants to have a relationship with our daughter.
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Also, Caffeind, I am probably the most accepting of family members you'll meet. I come from a very messy background, and I let things slide that most people wouldn't. I was barely sixteen when I began dating DH, and I was treated like a slut (which no woman should be called, ever). I was a virgin, as was their son, and they acted like I was trying to seduce him. How can you say that I may have de
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How's about you think before assuming you know anything about me? I didn't "let" DH talk to his mother. I "let" MIL talk to him, by reason that I had a phone and I handed it to her. Hat is all I meant. And, like I said above, I am very supportive of him pursuing relationships with his family, but HE doesn't want to, any longer. He feels that they have been very judgmental.
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I haven't been harboring resentment. Quite the contrary, I've encouraged and facilitated a very close relationship between my husband and his family. Recently, we have taken a step back because they won't let go of their resentment. It shows in how they treat us.
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Something I was thinking about today... When my now-husband and I were dating as teens (16&19), his family went insane and tried making us break up. They took DH's computer, phone, and car keys. They read our mail. They read his journal. They hacked all of his email accounts. Eventually, he left home and moved to my home town. Several months later, our district participated in an EFY activ
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honestone Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Is he encouraging the visits behind the scene to > keep you on board. don't think for a min. people > aren't talking to him. he definitely isn't encouraging these visits. he dislikes them as much as me.
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Also, when on the topic of sex before marriage (because that just HAD to come up), I told her that I don't feel guilty anymore about having "premarital sex." I told her that I felt that there are specific reasons that you shouldn't have sex outside of marriage, but that they're pretty simple--unwanted/planned pregnancy, STDs, not being emotionally ready, etc. She said, "Oh! Well, s
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anagrammy Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Confusedinck, I am a literal concerned that if you > say "don't try to re-convert me" they will take > that as you making a statement of apostacy and > initiate disciplinary proceedings. They think > nothing of putting pressure on your dh to > humiliate him even if you don't care. >
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They don't want me back Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > at bay. > > At what cost you the both of you? and you don't > owe them that. > > I will point out that I'm not a professional > either. Just want to fill in my disclaimer. It seems that some stuff he has a hard time letting go of, such as pre-existence of souls and whatnot. H
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They don't want me back, I want to leave, but I've been wanting to wait for my husband to leave as well. He doesn't believe, but he was raised in it, and feels, right now, like it would be removing a part of who he is. He's open to the idea of leaving someday though. He doesn't want our daughter to be raised in it.
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Thanks for all the support! My usual experience is that people yell at me for being so stupid as to allow myself to be a punching bag and for staying. lol
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Sorry I haven't replied till now, but I was making dinner. :) I think what I'm going to do is write a message to this woman on Facebook, and tell her that I don't want a visiting teacher anymore. I'm going to explain why. And then I'm going to email the bishop (again), and tell HIM that I do not want him to send people my way ever again. Take me off VT/HT lists and do not try to re-convert me.
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Hey everyone... Here's a little backstory: Several months ago, I emailed the bishop and told him that we were taking a break from church. He, of course, didn't like this. But it's our choice to stay away and we asked him to not send any home/visiting teachers to our house (as they hadn't been coming anyway for over a year). Lo' and behold, I've been having visiting teachers once a month for four
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This one from my TBM SIL: "is so very grateful for a mostly normal, healthy, upbringing and for guidance and standards that have kept her free." Omg... WTF?
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Thank you, everybody. Your comments are very helpful. Now I have a question for you. I've got about seven weeks (maybe a little longer since it's my first) till the baby is here. And you say to wait about eight weeks after the baby is born for my hormones to calm down before making any major decisions about the church. Okay, I get that, it's logical, sound advice. But that's about fifteen or so
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I just put this as part of my quotes on Facebook (too long to post as a status). :D
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Thank you, everybody. I didn't think I'd get so many replies! I can't terminate at this point, I'm 32 weeks along and love my daughter now. @Axeldc--No, I stopped paying tithing already. Now I'm on WIC. I'm sorry if I confused you with the way I worded my post. Everyone--Now, an interesting thing happened last night regarding tithing. I wrote here last night while my husband was in class, and
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I've written here a couple of times, but it's honestly been very hard for me to write since those times. There have been so many days where I've felt too dead emotionally to put any sort of feeling into a post, so I just... don't write. But I want to, now. I'm 32 weeks pregnant with my first child now. That's part of the reason I've been hiding from here for so long. I'd just started to try br
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