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Another dose of "The church is perfect, but the people are not."
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I agree with your definition of "Mormon anxiety." In addition, I think so many Mormon parents spend so much time worrying that their children won't be faithful Mormons. They're afraid that their kids will become addicted to porn, won't serve missions, won't get married in the temple, and on and on. They're afraid not just that their children will make wrong choices, but how those choice
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Mormons wouldn't necessarily keep a child from a non-Mormon parent. However, there is a lot of teaching and talk in the Mormon religion that Mormons should only surround themselves with like minded, covenant keeping people, aka other Mormons. Since you're not one of those, your daughter may have gotten the message that she shouldn't have a relationship with you. I'm sorry. It's probably very pain
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And the Primary President does nothing without the approval of the bishopric. So, you are under the direction of the bishopric. The Primary President is just the messenger.
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Does your daughter have another place to go after the baby is born if her husband refuses to give up his pet? Can she stay at your house, for instance? I hope your daughter tells her husband that she WILL NOT be bringing their baby home to their house if the wolf is there. It really doesn't matter if it's a wolf or another aggressive dog breed. It boggles my mind why so many people want knowingly
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I read the two articles, but didn't watch the video, so maybe my theory is discussed there. My opinion is that Mormon women are pretty invisible within the religion and culture. They don't have the priesthood. They have no power within the religion or culture. They're taught from an early age to marry young and become a homemaker. It's common for Mormon women to marry a year or two out of high
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There's definitely a lot wrong with this program. The Utah legislature is always trying to find ways to increase the accountability for teachers, but there's currently very little accountability for those who will either participate in or serve students in this program. I doubt the voucher program will work this way, but in my opinion, technically a program like this should allow public school
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Utah has a new educational voucher/scholarship program for school age children, Utah Fits All. Eligible students can receive up to $8000/year in an educational savings account to attend private schools or homeschool. There is a program manager hired by the state that determines eligible recipients as well as eligible schools and educational providers. I suspect the Latter-Day Learner program my b
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I read a recent DN article about General Relief Society President, Camille Johnson. Throughout the article she was referred to as, "President Johnson." I thought it was unusual because I always remember that in the church, "Sister" preceded a woman's last name, regardless of her calling. Then yesterday, I received a stake email that referred to the ward and stake Relief Societ
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Even if women want to follow church counsel and prioritize having children, life is such these days that it's often not financially feasible to do so. It's very difficult for a family to live on one income and if both parents choose to work, daycare costs can be exorbitant. The church could help young couples out and possibly even encourage them to have children by changing tithing requirement
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Yes, I always assumed that temple attendance was tracked. How else can church leadership know who is the most faithful and who to place in high callings? Using the spirit as a guide has its shortcomings after all. Right before I left the church, I was in a ward for eight years and was never asked to give a talk. I was faithful in every way except I hated the temple and never went. I suspect
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I can remember a couple of instances many years ago when a YW leader or Relief Society President thought denim skirts and dresses were too casual for church. It actually may have been a bishop trying to relay a message through a woman though. I remember that the women in the ward were told to "follow the spirit" to determine if denim was ok for church. Of course, that's code for denim i
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It's Christmas for me too. I live in Utah County. There are only two Saturdays a year that I can go to Costco and shop in peace. Well, at least between 10-12 and 2-4.
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She wore something incredibly sheer to shock and gain attention and then is "humiliated" when that's exactly what happened.
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The brethren clearing have their garments in a twist over this. I still get ward emails. There was a special Relief Society meeting for the ward a few months ago with visitors from the stake and the topic was dedicated to wearing garments. It isn't just young women who aren't wearing garments appropriately or regularly. I've noticed that middle age women in more upscale Mormon communities don'
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As others have stated, it's pretty rare for TBMs to attend services of other churches. Mormons often consider themselves to be experts in other religions without ever visiting them. I had the opportunity to attend other churches fairly often as a child simply because my parents are both converts and all of my extended family are members of other religions. I doubt my TBM husband, who has a lon
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Yep. They just rang my doorbell less than five minutes ago.
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You're right. The church just doesn't get it. The community feeling in the branch you describe was what I wanted the church to be, but it just wasn't. I've often wondered if the truth about the church would have mattered as much to me if I had felt a sense of belonging in the wards that I attended as an adult.
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I read about this in the DN this morning. They couldn't have added the word "covenant" in the broadcast any more if they tried. Lots of talk about covenant keeping, covenant daughters, covenant path, etc. It was also announced that young women are eligible to go to the temple to receive their endowment once they've graduated high school. Got to get those 18 year-old young women used
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I think religion has always provided a good cover and alibi for the phony and morally bankrupt. Of course, there are plenty of genuinely terrific people who are drawn to religion as well, but they tend to be the ones who don't feel the need to tell you how wonderful they are. I don't consider social media to be the best invention ever, but I've found that it can be a useful tool to help differ
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A bore of high councilors
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"I'm surprised that LDS Inc. didn't buy the property years ago when it was probably a lot cheaper." It wasn't for sale. The LDS church has been wanting to buy the Kirtland temple and other historical properties for years. I don't think the C of C would be selling if it didn't need the funds. Now that the church owns more historical church sites, it can control the narrative even more
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I'm sure lots of wards are planning a very fun potluck dinner. Last names A-K should bring salads and last names L-Z should bring desserts. Since it will be a big celebration, wards will provide paper products and hot dogs.
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Haha, yep.
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Missions may be less stress and more fun these days, but it seems like more missionaries than ever are cutting their missions short and coming home early.
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I would love to know if the church has excommunicated either of the women. Or maybe the church still reserves excommunication for the worst of the worst...those posting true, unflattering information about the church on social media, or for adults having consensual sexual relationships, aka the sin next to murder.
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The thing is, many Mormons have never visited a church other than their own. I think many are completely oblivious to the fact that other churches often have a beauty and specialness that Mormon churches lack. It's like being the ugly duckling and everyone else knows it but you.
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GNPE- To answer your question, yes, Utah has many charter schools. There are some that essentially operate as private religious schools at tax payer expense. A somewhat recent episode of Mormon Stories discussed a charter school in the Salt Lake area that is run by the Allred polygamous group.
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I honestly think a law like this will come back to bite those who think it's necessary in order to protect their children against liberal views. In many areas of Utah, teachers tend to be just as religious and conservative as the parents and legislators who want this. I raised my children in Utah County and I've always been surprised at what was ok in public schools here. For example, at one o
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