Shinehahbeam Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I've never seen that. Why would anyone do that?! > Am I the only one that thinks Monson looks like a > perv? Even as a kid, he always creeped me out. > My apologies and condolences if you happen to look > anything like him. > > On my mission, we taught a guy that had a poster > of
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I just noticed that my TBM family has a new 'decoration' displayed in their house. It's a framed pick of Tommy Monson with a caption 'Follow the Prophet'. Why just why? The pictures around the house of Christ don't bother me, but this??? Ick! It will undoubtedly become a 'conversation' piece for any nevermos that go to their house. How convenient. Has anyone else seen this in TBM homes??
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Nobody has had the balls to say it to my face, but based on what I hear my TBM family members and their friends say about other people...my guess is that they say, 'Satan is working really hard on her.' However! When I first got together with my nevermo boyfriend (now hubby), my TBM mother said to me (about him), 'I feel like we're dealing directly with the adversary!!!' I can laugh about
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tomie Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Their behavior indicates they don't really want to > be there. Hanging out in lobby/hall, taking kids > in & out of sacrament, and playing on phone during > service. Never see this stuff at my new church > because the people want to be there. You nailed it! The few times I've attended SM as an adu
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Coffee :-) Spending time with my children (hubs is working) Relaxing Not feeling guilty about spending money and 'making other people work' on a Sunday Dinner later with TBM and nevermo family members. A good mix actually
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Elders Quorum Drop-out Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > No, not a calling. But he asked "job", so I felt > it was an appropriate response. It's even more sad > because it wasn't a calling. It was a > volunteering. haha Touché! I didn't know there was such a thing as an apologist until I found this website. I'm learning all sorts of
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Elders Quorum Drop-out Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > FairMormon apologist. I have everyone beat. No > battle. haha ;) Is that an actual calling? Or is that something one decides to get involved doing? Sorry for my lack of knowledge!
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How does one go about releasing themself from a calling? I didn't know that was an option...or maybe you'd really need to have a pair to do that? I wasn't in long enough to have any 'jobs' other than primary pianist, which I kind of enjoyed. Actually, I guess I technically released myself because I told the chorister, 'so I can't do this anymore 'cause I'm moving'. And I gave a 1-week notice.
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I think my TBM sister secretly loves when one of her kids is sick so she has to stay home with them from church. Lol As a teen I always ditched church and a few of us would go sit in someone's car so as not to get caught. There was always a 'hallway monitor' looking for us! Good times, good times. My parents are baby boomers and they are so die-hard that they actually seem to love attendin
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I have family members who spend hours and hours doing this 'service'.
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My TBM sister is always touting the phrase 'modest is hottest'. Especially to a family friend who is in high school (her whole family went 'inactive' years ago). Sick of hearing it and feeling weird about wearing tank tops around the fam and other TBMs who know me. Lol
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^^^^^^^ wow! Spot on!
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Widmer Hefeweizen...with a lemon wedge :-)
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Oh yes the fear is real! And it's so stupid, but that's a result of indoctrination and brainwashing for sooooo long. Plus TBMs definitely treat us a certain way if they were to see that stuff in our shopping carts and that doesn't feel good. It's real for me cause I live in the same town as my TBM parents and a TBM sibling and therefore shop at the same stores. I have not resigned yet, so I'm
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One of the many f'd up reasons that I loathe tssc. A marriage and family are doomed unless both spouses are all-in. One of my BILs was converted by my sister shortly before they got married in the temple (so yea, he had one of those shocking wtf wedding days) and had no idea what he was getting himself into. He was seduced by tssc at a young age and in love with my sis. Now they have kids and h
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Tristan Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > > especially the ones I'm related to For me it's the ones I'm related who affect me the worst and do make me feel physically ill as well. It happens when TBM mother, who is wrathful, spoiled, and used to bullying people into getting her way, gets confrontational with me about me not being a part of tssc. I feel
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The church must not say anything about it cause I know tons of TBMs that have bolt-ons, including my mom, one of my sisters, 2 of my aunts. Lol But my mom nearly shit a brick when I pierced my ear near the top of the ear. Go figure.
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In recent past I've noticed (in person and via social media) women referring to their young son or nephew as their 'boyfriend'. It occurred to me that all the women I've heard say this are TBMs, including my ultra trendy TBM sister who just referred to her young son today as her 'little boyfriend'. What is up with this? Has anyone else noticed this? And does it creep anyone else out? Any other we
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People seem to interpret the 'multiply and replenish the earth' idea differently, depending on where they live or what is trendy. To some it seems to mean have as many kids as possible, to others I've noticed it super trendy to have 4 or 5. My TBM sister follows trends like crazy. It is very trendy where we live to have 4. And while she can barely support the 3 she has, I know she is going to hav
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As a kid and especially a teen I was always super embarrassed to be known as a Mormon. I never tell anyone I meet about my past in Mormondom because they instantly change their view of me. So I get to hear comments about Mormons from people because they have no idea that I ever was one. It's usually 'those crazy mormons' with an eye roll or a laugh. Recently, though, my nevermo/never religious
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It sucks because it's probably the most subtle form of indoctrination/brainwashing there is. I remember singing 'if you could hie to kolob' not knowing wtf I was singing about, but just went along with it with everyone else. Just think of all the brainwashing lyrics that are repetitively drilled into your head from birth (for those of us who were BIC).
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It is realllly hard to change your way of thinking from doing what your parents expect of you to doing what you want. It took me years to switch my thinking around. I'm almost 40 and my parents (mostly mom) still try and get me to do things they think I should be doing! It's easier said than done, but you have to be able to stand up for yourself and be strong about your decisions. TBM parents ac
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1) The way women were treated as if their sole purpose was to become a baby machine. My brothers were encouraged to go to college and were given financial support, whereas I had to put myself through school and then I received negative and/or condescending comments from family members and other TBMs once I completed my advanced degree. Some family members actually look down on women who decide to
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Thankfully I only went once to do baptisms as a young teen, so I've never been through an endowment myself. But I know that my TBM mother goes all the time. The older she gets, the more often she goes. My TBM dad, not so much. I've been wondering about this.
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Ah well that makes sense they were regurgitating some garbage. I didn't stay in tssc long enough to 'learn' of that other than from the parents.
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Not sure if this is widespread belief among TBMs, but when I was a child my TBM parents told me that the CK is so incredible that if anyone on earth were to get a glimpse of it, they would want to commit suicide so they could go there. What kind of crazy $&@% is that to say to a child?!
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