I've been married 16 years to a wonderful Never Mormon man. I will never understand anyone saying a spouse "can't" do something. I married a man, he has his own likes and dislikes and I am a woman with very different likes and dislikes. Sometimes we disagree on what we like or dislike and that is fine. If we want to watch different things we have two or more tv's. If he wants to go o
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I know how important Forgiveness is for many but I also know that Forgiveness is not the only option. Erasing the wrong doings or ignoring their effects in the interest of "being the better person" do not satisfy me. I was not the "worse person" for being targeted in the first place, I owe no responsibility to anyone for the behavior and faults of another person so I refuse
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Bear, I won't contribute to giving you advice because I don't think I know enough about the facts of the situation to do that. I do however hope that if it is a treatable condition, he gets the help he needs. Giving up on a relationship is not easy and although it might be the choice I would make (who's to say) I think it is important to support you in what you are doing. Mormonism may contri
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I don't know how you guys walk around with those things. (Elaine)
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Oh my goodness, now I am looking for my Seinfeld videos... FUNNY
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Do women know about shrinkage? What like laundry? LOL (Love me some Seinfeld)
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This church didn't get where they are financially today by not knowing how to protect themselves and their number one resource which certainly isn't a child. Children are dispensable and the easiest way to demonstrate that is to remove all of their power. Unconditional love is a term that means something different to those of us that have experienced the negative love we know too well. To
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I definitely agree. The silence is torture as a survivor. What is even more torturous however is when you choose not to be a victim and then you are faced with a choice; tell and keep telling, or give up on yourself. To me it was worth the telling.. I didn't care who I hurt in the process. Classic anger. Now as a middle aged adult myself though I agree it does come into my thought proces
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I refuse to take any ownership or fault in what they did to me. However, the church continued to call me for YEARS, long after I was married and out of State to see if I had "Forgiven" him yet. My only reply to the church was "doesn't forgiveness require him to ask for it, or at least apologize? And if you ever call me again I will sue."
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Once I said my peace to his new wife I was out of the picture for them. As I said he eventually was back in the church and less than 5 years later until his death he was a Temple worker, and on the Bishopric in charge of the Primary organization with his very large ward. Pathetic. Regarding the "where does it come from"? My honest opinion is the "God complex" that is a
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I can't help but read this and think of the number of times other Mormon families ignored the fact they were witnessing my abuse. Many years of it for me. Oddly even after it was public knowledge he successfully married a woman with a fourteen year old daughter! Oh sure, the woman he married asked me tons of questions about the abuse and I answered truthfully. She knew and didn't care. He was
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My sister was married at 13 and now has four children. She (finally) divorced him two years ago. She still participates in the Mormon Church. Oddly so does her ex-husband. He was 28 when he married her at 13. Very sick. My sister is no angel believe me, but she had no method of determining right from wrong. Sadly she has to depend on the church now to support her and the kids. So grateful I
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Thank you all so much for such a warm welcome! I don't come asking for pity by any means, but it is nice to know that the silence demanded by the Mormon church is not the prevalent norm here!
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Absolutely correct Robert Hall! I attempted to pursue charges and was told I was "not a good witness" due to my depression. Later many years I requested and obtained copies of the "redacted" records from social workers during my foster home stay. Amazingly it was not listed as "incest" because he was "not my biological father". So yes adoption is for th
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Thank you! I sure heard the "it isn't the church that is bad or imperfect but rather the humans that you have dealt with". My feeling on that is if you meet one bad apple try again, I did repeatedly but the reaction was pervasive throughout! Everyone was more afraid of my "contaminating" their so called perfect lives by telling the truth than they were protecting anyone. S
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May I ask what TSCC is?
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I love the thought of finding it and burning it, but reality is if you did something of that value, you could buy a lot more cold ones and still choose to stay away from the hypocrisy taught there.
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The path church took on this issue was that I refused to continue talking to them about any of this and therefore he was forgiven. Honestly I am terrified there are probably others. We found 8mm film many years later and had it transferred to video, one of the 8mm films was solely of young ladies rear ends, all different women. These were taken back in the early 70's best we could tell, but he
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Thank you for the Welcome!
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I've been gone 20 years now. I can honestly say I am so grateful to be able to say that. My life was NOT easy at all. I was born to a divorced set of parents that didn't want me. My mother gave me up for adoption and told her family I had died. My father did want me but he had a criminal record so I was placed in foster care for six months. I was adopted by Mormon parents, father was a convert an
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I've been gone 20 years now. I can honestly say I am so grateful to be able to say that. My life was NOT easy at all. I was born to a divorced set of parents that didn't want me. My mother gave me up for adoption and told her family I had died. My father did want me but he had a criminal record so I was placed in foster care for six months. I was adopted by Mormon parents, father was a conver
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