Or mandatory organ donation for men. If women have to be forced to keep another human alive with their body then it's the least dead men can do.
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Shoot! They can have mine! lol! They are currently languishing in a box of Halloween and ren fair costumes in my basement. I also noticed that Pyre's wife was wearing the one-piece garments. The only other time I'd seen those is when my dad wore them in the 80s. They stopped making them by the time I got my endowment in '98. So yeah, they def did their homework.
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On a side note, I'll never get tired of watching space pirates command a stolen ship with mo temple art and sealing room altar. lol.
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Every Thursday at midnight. I waited up to watch episode 3 early. That's where they show a good bit of the pre-1990 temple ceremony in a very good replica of the SL temple. Def gonna ruffle some garments! lol! I'm betting that some bishops and above may start counseling their members against viewing the show if they haven't already.
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Lol, they are really gonna shit their pants on episode 3! They show the anointing and Brenda confiding in her SiL about how weird she thought it was. Def gonna give some current members a big dose of the ol' cog-dis. I know this series would have rattled me as a member for sure. Even now, watching that poor detective wrestle with what he is learning about the faith he was so certain he knew is
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I just wish they would go more into what led up to the stuff like the tarring and feathering of JS and the Hauns Mill massacre. Other than the reference to the MMM, they seem to be painting Mormons as the persecuted victims when we all know it was far more nuanced than that.
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I was living in SLC in the '80s and they didn't call each other brother and sister there so much, but when we moved to Sandy, they did a lot more because everyone on your block was in your ward. Smaller towns in 80's Utah too. My family referred to it as the holy spirit a lot too, but that may be a regional thing? I was wondering about the fry thing too, but I think there was some debate amon
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I'm rewatching it with my ex-JW partner and there is just so much. We watched episode 3 with the scene in the SL temple and he was shocked when I told him I'd been in that room doing much of that ceremony (the post-1990 version) in that same get-up. I have green hair, piercings, and a lot of tattoos now so he had a hard time picturing it, lol. I've never seen a show that has the lingo down so a
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Thank you for that. No, I was not a good fit at all though I about killed myself trying to be, as I'm sure many here can relate. When, at age 30, I first asked the question "What if it's not true?" one of the first things I felt was an immense relief and a huge weight lifting. That feeling didn't last, unfortunately. Just too much to unpack from there. But I do think I probably
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it's unfortunate how often it's the people you should be able to rely on most that have the sharpest knives. While all families have their own sort of mythology, it's mo families that seem to be the most devastatingly creative in inventing stories for their family members, especially the wayward ones. It made it easier to let them go when I realized that they had no idea who I was and no de
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When I first left TC in 2008 remember reading posts here of people who had been out for decades and wondered what that would feel like. I don't think of my time in TC very often anymore but every now and then something reminds me of it and I realize how far I've come and how proud I am of what I've gotten myself through. I wanted to take a minute to recap the last 14 years and then share s
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I just watched episodes 1 & 2 of the new series Under the Banner of Heaven on Hulu. I've been out of the morg since 2008 and lived in Sandy and South SL in the 80's. Whoever put together the details of the series really did their homework down to the wall art and the prayers. Gave me some serious flashbacks! I never read the book, but had found it recommended here when I first left the TC.
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Hey everyone, I'm writing a book about my time at a member run wilderness program for teens during the satin panic in the 90's and I'm trying to find more info on the psychological phenomenon called elevation and, more specifically, how it is misused in the church. I can't seem to find much on it but I seem to remember a discussion about on here a long time ago and can't find that either. If a
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....it was a heart wrenching story that parallels many of our own. I had it in my bookmarks but have since lost it. It's well worth the read if anyone has the link still.
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“The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints has zero tolerance for abuse of any kind ,” church spokesman Scott Trotter
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In every defense of mormonism (or religion in general) it comes down to feelings. When investigating you are told to read, pray, and FEEL the answer. As a child you are told to listen to the HG, even given the 'gift' of the HG to supposedly make those feeling easier to come by.(never understood how that worked, but that's a whole other post by itself.) Even with all the blatant information t
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I didn't get one either and now I'm glad. Just reading it about sent me into a diabetic coma!
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You made me choke on my cracker! K-D
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Mine is an allusion to the Swift book, Gulliver's Travels. I poke fun at my own gullible nature that made me a true believer for 33 years. I thought it fitting given the political/religious satire of the book, the free mason connection, being abandoned by those I trusted/traveled with, not ever being quite the right size to fit in, going inactive/rebelling then comming back, how having seen som
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but I absolutely LOVE starbucks. Pike or Sumatra with half & half and a bunch of splenda. I tried coffee as a rebellious mo teen and always loved it. My uber tbm mom tried to tell me it tasted like muddy water when I was little. So I couldn't understand why everyone at restaurants liked it so much and why it smelled soooo gooood! Good luck, and may the coffee bean gods smile upon your fir
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I posted about a week ago with the nephew/funeral drama and wanted to update everyone who so kindly read/posted. We didn't go. No point. So my dh went to the store and bought a bunch of white balloons. I printed out pictures of S. and we all wrote a note on them to him which I then attached to each balloon. We went out in our front yard on a beautiful October afternoon and let them all go int
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I had to purge my wardrobe upon my exit (and loss of 40 lbs), but some of the things in there made me wonder, WHY? Ugly cardigans Denim pencil (or fat marker) skirts Denim overall dress Christmas sweaters Cute strapy sundress w/ ugly FotL white tee under it Waaay too many ugly pairs of flats knee high stockings Pinch pleated khacki (however u spell it) anything I wore this stuff all
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I feel your pain. I cried for days over that one. The whole PoGP is what kept my mind engaged, kept hope in the doctrine alive. I even named my only son Enoch because of it. That was one of the truly bitter disappointments in my exit. I was happy to give up the tithing b/s, the weekly snorefests, the busy work, the other sleep inducing texts,-but the BoA/PoGP- I can still feel that betrayal and
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Before all this, S and us were close. He idolized his uncle (my dh) and had been talking with him about joining the military since my dh & I had been marines. Before we left the church we were 'in' with them & their family. Our kids were friends and called/im'd each other often. Nothing that was said by them, though very hurtful would have caused us to something like this to them, mu
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S. is our nephew, my husbands sisters eldest son. The timeline goes like this: Last summer- Younger sil & her dh/kids came for a visit. Turns out it was a spy mission to dig dirt on 'the apostates'. Last fall- oldest sister (S.'s mom) came for a 'visit' to confront us about our exit from the church and our 'behavior'. Big sis's dh sat in our living room yelled at me for saying the BOM w
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You read that right. Early on October 9th my 22 year old nephew was killed in a car accident. The whole family is devastated. We made plans to load up our 4 kids and make the 12 hr drive from Co to Ok to be there. Then comes the really messed up part. Our family left the church in Dec 08. Since then my dh family has been doing everything they can to -well- talk shit about what horrible peop
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