Well it's a little late to worry about STD's - if something were to come up, it probably would have happened several months ago. She does show that she wants to be with me - she posts about me on social media where everyone can see, she writes me notes and messages me often, and we do talk about our future. I've met many of her friends and family and they all love me so it's not like she's hi
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Part of it was because I asked her about guys she dated and then stories would just unravel. I knew about a few things but this week I've learned a lot more. She's asked me if I really wanted to know and when I said yes, she'd tell me. Some of the time she brushes them off because she did them in her teenage years when she didn't realize how stupid she was, but other times she tells me how sh
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Well when she'd tell me about ex boyfriends, I'd ask questions... it would then spiral into other stories with other guys... Or sometimes she'd tell me about a guy friend and I'd ask if she'd slept with him and it would just open a can of worms. I haven't asked her per say why she's been with so many guys, but I've asked questions where she's expounded on them more than I thought she would. I
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Well maybe I've brought it on myself. I have asked her questions about some of the guys she's dated and when she explains things, they typically spiral into other stories with other guys she's been with. Toward the end I'm surprised she even told me all that. It also makes me wonder why she'd even date me. It didn't bother me all that much until this week when she came to visit me and I start fin
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Hi everyone, I've been long-distance dating a nevermo I met over the summer. Things are getting more serious and we're trying to figure things out but something has been bothering me lately. I was very mo in my youth and was relatively tame until I was in my mid twenties and left the church. I've had my fair share of sexual partners but nothing too crazy. My girlfriend, on the other han
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Here's my two cents. When I went inactive, I was in my mid 20's living in a big city where I didn't really know anyone so church members couldn't really bother me. Instead of looking for another church I decided to just do what I want to do and not worry about religion for a while. Over time I did decide to start reading up on the church - I mainly looked at wikipedia to answer some of my
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I hung out with two ex companions tonight. One was very iffy on his mission. He went because he thought it was the right thing to do but had a very shaky testimony. The other was pretty strong in the church but had made a few mistakes on the way. I was pretty gung-ho about being a missionary when I went and had a very strong testimony. The shaky one never trained or was in leadership but he is
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Looking back on my days as a scout in Utah, we had an inactive kid who would come here and there. His family was catholic but he still showed up. We were pretty nice to him but I do remember how there was always a little underlying feeling that he wasn't one of us. There's gotta be non-mormon troops in Utah. I'd totally join one as a leader. They gotta cut that church bullshit. BTW One thin
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This kinda reminds me of my tinder experiences inside and outside of Utah... Outside of Utah you meet someone in public somewhere first to gauge if that person is crazy and if you have chemistry. If you want to get frisky, you ask them to come home with you... if they say yes you know you're at least going to get some kind of action. I used tinder when I was in Utah and I asked a girl to meet
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But they're in Belgium. The church tries to get local people to support their missions and they fill in the gaps with the gringos. Europe was predominantly American/Utahn. Had this bombing happened in South America, I highly doubt they'd all be Utahn, let alone American.
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Naw, if you purposely try to piss Mormons off like that you'll start looking like that jaded ex-mo who is so unhappy because they left the church that they purposely try to put the church down any chance they get. I go for the subtle negs like omitting the middle name of the apostles but keeping it in casual tone. Say Jeffry Holland or Thomas Monson and see how they are somewhat irritated but
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Same in Massachusetts. You have to show a driver's license or passport. No exceptions. They card absolutely everyone. I've gone by once or twice without getting carded but I never cared because I was over 21. I know some people get mad about it but if I just have to show an ID to get a beer, then I'll do it.
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That's exactly what I was thinking. I went to Europe and even though conversions were abysmal, I did get some work done. Isn't a stateside mission supposed to be relatively easy and productive?
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I had my ex wife's temple clothes and my ex girlfriend begged me to let her wear them and take a picture. I couldn't say no.
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The thing about where white people meet is that Utah is 90% white. You don't even need to try to find white and delightsome people. They're everywhere.
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Please do that. It would be awesome.
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Ugh this reminds me of my mom... She'll say things about others with underlying meanings like "that's so and so - she got pregnant as a teen but met a nice RM later on", "so and so got sent home from their mission but just got married" or "x family is so great. It's such a shame their sons never went on missions". Whenever she says that I always tell her how rud
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I'm so sorry. I just went through the same thing last month but I was the guy who broke it off. I decided to move back to Utah to take over the family farm and watch over my parents. I know for a fact that she would have dropped everything to move across the country with me but I just couldn't do it. We had been dating for about a year and it was too soon for me. I started distancing myself f
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Yes - confirmed. I used to be a temple worker and when they did the pre-game huddle each day, they'd put up the male and female names on an overhead and they were the names of the day. There is one set of names for days 1-31 of a month. I remember feeling duped into thinking that my new name was special... but in reality there is a 1 in 31 chance that another male member has the same nam
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I've had a cup of coffee here or there over the past few years but I had coffee at my friend's place when I stayed there for a few days and I really liked it. Makes me almost want to start making it myself. I had an iced coffee in Moab and it was amazing. the ice cubes were frozen coffee so it didn't dilute. Now that was nice.
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jerry64 Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > BYU-Utah > BYU-Provo I just say BYU. Nobody wants to talk about BYU Idaho.
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I'd let this be a learning lesson for you. Whenever they want to invite themselves to your lake house, think of all this crap and tell them you're busy or don't have room for them. You don't need to blow up on them and tell them they were terrible guests, just tell them that they can't come. It's that simple. I've got to hand it to you, you have a hell of a lot more patience with them than I
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and to top that off, Moses (akhenaten) was actually an alien who used a water repulsion ray to part the red sea and used intergalactic space food as manna from heaven.
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I worry about this all the time. My parents, grandparents, and multiple aunts and uncles have diabetus. They're overweight and mainly eat junk food so there's not a big surprise for that. My siblings are generally overweight and don't exercise so I'm not sure how long they'll last. I make green smoothies, drink kefir, eat meat sparingly, and watch my dieting a lot and they all act like I
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Oh gosh. My family has a green jello salad.ym you get one lemon and one lime jello, mix in mayo so it becomes opaque, then mix in crushed Pineapple and Cottage cheese. Garnish with Walnuts. I have to prepare every girl I bring home to eat this. One time I didn't, she refused to eat it, and my family hated her forever.
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Someone should make a peepstone app where ythe stone illuminates verses from the book of Mormon. Wouldn't it be fun to read family scriptures from a peepstone app?
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^this Some missionaries stay in an area for 6 to 9 weeks. I remember when I was a missionary that a member said she just called us all elder because we switched out every few months and it wasn't worth remembering our names. Sure made me feel special.
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I remember my sister in law posting an article about this and making the Mormons look crazy... She was saying the article was bologna and all lies... At first I thought that she was saying that the end wasn't coming and that the members were crazy... But after a few posts back and forth I asked if she thought that it was bologna how they were making the members look like they were crazy. S
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It's simple. Just tell them that you have come to realize that the church is not for you and that you don't want them to contact you ever again. Missionaries keep a record of you so if you tell them not to contact you they eill either throw it away or archive it for a year... At least that's what I did when I was a missionary. If they try to come by or call back, don't engage with them...
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