Most of the time, I'm okay with my friends and family still being very active tbm. I'm okay being the "black sheep" of the group, and I'm okay listening to them talk about church sh*t. I understand because I know I used to be the same, and I'm perfectly okay changing the subject when it gets to me. Sometimes, though, it really gets to me. I want to counter all their religious gushing wi
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One sunday during sacrament meeting, a woman returned to her seat at the front of the chapel. Perhaps she hadn't fastened her skirt after using the restroom or something, but by the time she had walked from the chapel doors all the way down to one of the front rows, both her skirt and her slip had fallen down to her knees. She was standing there in her garmies for a split second before she realiz
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Sorta reminds me of a line from The Big Bang Theory - Sheldon said "I'm a very smart person. Don't you think if I were wrong, I'd know it?"
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Absolutely contact an attorney - medical malpractice (obviously). Don't hesitate.
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So I'm taking my kids to SLC next month to visit family. We live very, very far away and usually only see extended family once a year. Turns out, the day we arrive, my niece is getting baptized near the exact time our flight arrives, so I'll be renting transportation to my parents' house. Not really a big deal. My real dilemma is about the the next day. Do I take my kids to church in a show of f
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I saw them, and thought the same exact thing. Especially when the 6 year old said she "forgave" the shark. I'm glad the little girl is okay, and I don't have any ill will toward them because of their mormonism - but I was struck with how my internal radar was pinging with mormonosity when I saw them on tv. Weird. To those who are a bit skeeved out by the description of the little gi
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I've gotten some good tips from a couple of books - "Siblings Without Rivalry" and "Loving Each One Best" (sorry I don't remember the authors, but the books are on amazon). Each book has some good ideas for helping siblings to create relationships with one another without a parent being the intermediary.
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Hey Knotty - For what it's worth, I think you did the right thing. Working with pathologically damaged people like the ex is very tricky. People on the outside think that they "know" the right way to handle it, but the truth is, until you have to deal with a crazy person like the ex on a frequent basis, you honestly have no idea what it's like. My husband mother is crazy, and so i
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In my experience, most (at least half) med students are in their mid to late 20's. My spouse was 32 when he graduated from med school, and people called him gramps.
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Almost the exact same thing happened to me 16 years ago! I had been home from my mission for not even 6 months when this perfectly righteous priesthood holder (on paper) proposed to me. I said yes, believing that my mission president was right about spouses being like mission companions - you could do the lord's work with any other willing missionary. So, one week before the big day - seriousl
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the temple garb goes over the dress. Sort of ruins the whole thing. The groom just wears his regular temple stuff, and the bride has to put on sleeves and a "dickie" to cover up any neckline skin. Unless of course, the dress is deemed too fancy. Then the bride has to wear a uniform temple dress. Then, you get a whole lot of paperwork stamped and processed. My husband turned to me an
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My last experience at Girls' Camp was as a "leader". The girls in my ward were camped nearest to the latrine and decided to play pranks on any midnight potty goers. They gathered a bunch of leaves and sticks, securing it with a length of fishing line long enough to control from a nearby tent. The clump of leaves and sticks was then lowered into the opening of the crapper, with the fishi
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Hey gtg- I think we might be neighbors. Relatively speaking, that is. I live just outside of Richmond, too.
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I just read this on a friend's blog. She's tbm, of course, and she frequently plugs her faith, bless her heart. And by "bless her heart" I actually mean "the poor bastard". Anyway, here's what she has to say about diversity in Mormonism: "A lot of people have been critical of these videos, saying it's a joke to suggest there is any sort of diversity among Mormons-
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My own kids are in a similar boat. They love visiting cousins (who are all tbm) but I've told them many many times about things the cousins believe but we don't. I agree that a five year old - especially one who is aware enough that her statements at the dinner table matter - is old enough to understand that adults can have different beliefs and still get along. Don't underestimate your child
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She sounds articulate and thoughtful - to the degree that she can be right now, at least. One of the problems with Mormonism, and probably religion in general, is that people (like your wife) use it as a replacement for real relationships and intimacy. If you no longer have religion in common, then she can't rely on that crutch anymore. She has to be real with you. That's scary when all you'v
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It's a hell of a lot nicer than what I would tell your mother. In all seriousness, though, my mother's reaction when I left the church (I was 33 years old) was to say "I've failed as a mother" about herself. I nearly started laughing, until I realized she wasn't being sarcastic. That's how she actually felt. Boundaries are important here - you need to establish them because you
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No - but I read a review that said Mormons found it sweet and endearing. Wish I could remember the link.
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Gag! RSV is serious. Very serious. My son had it 9 years ago, When he was an infant. It was "caught" in the "early stages", and he only needed treatments when he got sick for the first few years afterwards. It completely destroys the ability to get rid of mucus from the nasal passages and airways. I agree - this mom isn't very smart about her kids.
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Sounds like your wife is smart enough that she'll start putting two and two together, family lineage be damned. Give her space to figure it out herself, and I think you'll be pleasantly surprised.
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It was a little weird, but only because I felt self-conscious and insecure about nearly making such a huge mistake. After being in such a yucky feeling relationship and calling off the wedding, I knew that I would rather be alone than lose my identity. The thing is, you probably will feel a little weird at first. You might feel strange jumping back into the dating pool. But it will pass, and
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and even stop the wedding. I feel qualified to give this advice because I was in your shoes a few years ago. My fiance and I were engaged to be married in June, but even as early as April, I was having doubts. We had a pretty long engagement by Mormon standards, considering he asked me in January, and we scheduled it for June. Anyway, the weekend of general conference in April, I told him I w
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Yesterday two suits showed up, claiming to be our home teachers, pretty much assuming they would be invited in. My husband told them we were not Mormons, to which they replied "According to our records..." and my husband said "According to my records, we're not Mormon" and he told them not to come back.
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I was curious about something - what if it wasn't "Brandon Davies" but "Steve Young"? Do you think Steve Young would have received such a publicly humiliating consequence to violating the honor code? My guess is that Steve Young would never have faced the same kind of scrutiny Mr. Davies is receiving. Makes me want to shrug my shoulders and say "Who cares? This is new
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I disagree. It's a huge leap of logic to say that exmos are self destructive. I don't see how leaving behind an institution that is parasitic in its soul sucking tendencies causes a person to act like Charlie Sheen. I also don't see a lot of exmos going out and acting like a complete douchenozzle just because they no longer subscribe to the religious doctrine of the church. But that's just
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Missionaries are taught manipulation tactics in the MTC and in the mission field. BRT = build a relationship of trust (cuz no one's going to buy your shtuff if they don't trust you) Commitment pattern - getting people to commit to things they may not be sure about by pestering them a billion times. In my opinion, these are the same tactics that make any well trained sales force. Plus,
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Well, she's obviously convinced herself she's right about EVERYTHING. It's not worth your time to "debate" with this type of person - just my opinion.
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So the missionaries stopped by on Saturday. When they rang the doorbell, the dog barked and my 9 year old went to answer the door. My husband saw who it was from a side window and yelled "Don't answer the door!" loud enough for them to hear. They stood at the door awhile, and even knocked with the brass thingy on the door, sending the dog into a barking frenzy. This is probably the
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