I wore a black sheer blouse (just in case anyone there was wondering about garments! ha! I've never been through the temple anyway) and a black skirt with tights...it was a freezing day. But that's what I would wear to any funeral probably. I was told it started at 10am...got there at least 10-15 minutes early and the family was already walking in and the casket was already closed and in t
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Unfortunately it was for a funeral. :-( I have vowed to myself that I will only set foot in a Mormon church building for a funeral and for NO other reason. No more baptisms or baby blessings or Halloween carnivals or fundraisers or whatever. I'm not supporting their scam in any way. However, a funeral is a different story for me. If that's where they're holding it, and it's my only chance to pay
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^^^^ That's my experience also! I moved back to the area I lived in when I was last Mormon (during high school)...and my parents still live here. And it became urgent for me as well because dear old dad was sending mishies to harass me incessantly! In his face!
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I was mentally out and stopped attending once I reached adulthood...stayed on the rolls for 21 years and thought I didn't need to resign because it would cause unnecessary family drama for me. Once I realized that the ONLY way to get the mishies to stop harassing me was to resign, I did. It was the most freeing feeling of my life! I resigned via the lawyer's website in Utah because emailing m
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I think they never found you, Hockeyrat, because there hasn't been a zealous family member ratting you out. That's been my experience. Yes to resigning, though!!
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You must resign! Mishies kept coming to my house incessantly...they were arrogant jerks, never offering to do service (not that I would have taken them up on it), and I knew that my parents were sending them to harass me because I live in the same neighborhood (same 'ward'). I was born into this horrible excuse for a religion and stopped participating when I was 18...once my parents gave me an ul
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messygoop Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Maybe I'm wrong, but I think a lot of ultra TBM's > that are having large families (5-10) children are > heavily subsidized by their TBM parents. I don't > think that they are making ends meet without the > financial support of their parents and grand > parents. I agree with this. My TBM neighbo
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Hey that's a good idea! LOL Somehow they seem to successfully glamorize missions to children so much that they are begging to go! So weird!
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Two out of my three sisters are ultra TBM. One of them cannot be trusted, and the other one is my best friend in the world. She rarely mentions church, thank gawd, and we have millions of other things to talk about. She recently lamented about all the changes happening at church lately. One thing she said (and sorry if this has been posted about...I've been on hiatus for awhile) was that in Relie
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Knowing he would be baptized next year, I knew he would start blabbing about it a lot. I need to have a response prepared for him for the next time he says that my daughter should be baptized because she just turned 8. I think my parents finally know I will bite their heads off if they mention baptism, so maybe this is their conniving way of trying to get to my kids...via a cousin. He (and his f
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Very true... It's just that he sounds like a robot repeating a script. It was kinda creepy! It also reminded me of being a BIC child myself and we were taught that either you went to OUR church, or you were bad. That brainwashing during my formative years was brutal and messed me up for good. I did make it out alive, though. I've resigned, my husband is a nevermo, so none of our kids are Mo. :
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Here's what I found on the CA Dept of Education website: Q.5. May a charter school offer, provide, or teach religious curricula? If it does, is the school still eligible for apportionment? Charter schools and non charter schools may teach about religion, but may not teach a sectarian curriculum. EC Section 47605(d) https://www.cde.ca.gov/sp/cs/re/qandasec4mar04.asp#q5 So no, they can
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I took my TBM nephew shopping to pick out a birthday gift. He just turned 7. I asked him if he was still saving up his money to buy a Nintendo Switch. His response, "Well I was, but not anymore. Now I'm saving all my money for a mission! I want to save enough to do 9 missions!" I was kind of shocked...we spent about 2 hours with him and he spouted off with great zeal about going on a mi
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About 2 years ago my TBM sister and I went through the Starbucks drive through together...they were doing a buy one get one deal. So we each got a drink (I got a fully leaded Latte of course), and we picked up drinks for our TBM parents. My sister ordered super sugary hot chocolate type drinks for the 3 of them...I think it was a chocolate caramel latte without the coffee (not even decaf). The ba
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Come to think of it, my ultra TBM neighbors across the street just painted their house white. Stark white. It's blinding. It looks terrible and sticks out like a sore thumb. Most houses around here are earth-toned. Now I'm wondering if this was intentional on their part...to appear more white and delightsome to the other TBMs.
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The whole ordeal is so tragic. :-( I live 125 miles away from Paradise and it seems that everyone around here knows at least someone who lost everything. We've also had terrible air quality here, resulting in school closures, etc. I did see on the news that airbnb is allowing fire victims to stay in vacation homes at no charge.
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My birthday is in late November and my mom took me to church as a newborn. I got an infection and was hospitalized for several weeks.
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Tssc breeds and breathes narcissism. This behavior is exactly my mother and sister. Every 'good deed' they do is always self-serving in some way. They brag about helping people and would never help someone if they couldn't showcase it to the world somehow. It's for this reason that I kinda hate social media. At least before that era began they could only brag to the world during F&T meeting.
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I don't have a story in particular, but I do know of a Mormon therapist in my area who counsels people that are addicted to sex. WTF...how does that work? And I'm sure he has non-mormon clients. Does he throw religious guilt into it? I'm super curious...
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I've definitely been shunned by one person...she lives across the street from my parents, and is super close friends with my sister. But she is a horribly unfriendly and sanctimonious human anyway, so it's not like her and I were ever friends. The other Mo's I run into at my children's school act friendlier than normal or don't say hi at all (shunning). When I moved back to my parent's neighborho
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If this doesn't scream cult, I don't know what does!!! I don't know if my parents wore the onesies when I was a kid, but I do remember them walking around in their garmies all the time. I remember seeing my mom put her bra on over the garmies. I knew it was part of being Mormon, but I didn't know it was temple-related. I did think it was weird, but of course it seemed normal to my brainwashed min
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walked right past my house!! If you don't know, I officially resigned a few months ago. They've been bugging me several times a year since I moved to my current neighborhood...my TBM neighbor is in the bishoprick and my dad is the ward clerk. They ALWAYS send the mishies my way. I didn't tell any of my TBM family members that I resigned (whom I live in their 'ward boundaries'). I figured it's m
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Heartbreaking! He probably will be forever traumatized by this experience. I don't get why TBMs are OFFENDED by the baptisms that Catholics do...sprinkling water. They are so hell-bent on full immersion. It's symbolic anyway! Washing away of sins by immersion is symbolic. Your dirty sin germs aren't literally being cleansed from your body. WTF?? But I can tell you that my parents and Mormonism in
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Well my TBM sister sure isn't heeding the command! She posts about anything and everything all the damn time...
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Of course they take attendance. That way they can say to you in a bish interview, or while accosted in the hallway, or otherwise, "it seems that you've had low attendance lately...you've got some 'splaining to do!" One of the many things I couldn't stand was the constant keeping of tabs on everyone. Everyone knew if someone wasn't there. I've never really been to any other churches,
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Yes! My mother is one of them.
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Ahahaha!! Thanks for that link! The members formerly known as Mormons must be doing some serious mental gymnastics over this, or just have selective forgetfulness.
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What's with the talk of church being more home-centered? What does that even mean? Is it kind of like home-school, which a lot of tbms love? Home-church? I predict they do away with meeting houses altogether and make the members host sacrament at people's homes...because wards are shrinking so much. Bam! They can get rid of all of those overhead costs!
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Nelson (or maybe it's really Wendy behind all this) needs to get a clue. There are many people who do their sales via social media...so people (women only) are supposed to put their livelihood on hiatus because this 'prophet' of theirs wants to make his mark? Absurd. Just a control tactic.
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I don't think this is the first time they've requested (commanded) a social media fast. They want their members to feel like they have control over their own lives, but they actually don't. As a kid I was seriously confused about the fact we were told we had 'free agency', yet I could feel the weight of the oppressive thumb of religion via my parents. One of my first shelf items. I think ts
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